When I was pregnant with Scarlett, Rye and I had to go to Colorado for his mother’s wedding. She was being married at Garden of the Gods, beautiful place, and the whole family was on a week long vacation for the event. While it was a great place to visit and I njoyed seeing the country, I discovered a very sad fact out there. I have a tremondous fear of…
Allot of us knew that it was going to happen. The way this current administration was so busy taking about family values. Georgie W speaking of the government funding maternity homes in the presidential debates. The ban of funding towards stem cell research, but over a million dollars going to funding embryo adoptions at Snowflakes in California. Aggressive and mandatory adoption awarness training for any place that provide abortions. The…
So, while I don’t particulary like hearing or seeing these kinds of things on Ebay, this is NOT a call to write in and tell these folks how awful they are. For one, I don’t think that much said will really change their point of view, and second, it just makes the people who do look like the mad minority. “We” have already gotten the “credit” for the “nasty” emails…
Just a quickie! This woman comes in tonight and orders Pumpkin Ravioli..good stuff!! Delicate taste, brown butter sherry sauce…note: made of real butter, and sherry..that’s about it. Eats it all..yum yum THEN proceeds to give her food server, a marvelous left handed Gay Capricorn Man, named James the Cat AKA Poodle..a HUGE hard time because….egads! We don’t have skim milk for her freaking capachino. Like a major hard time: “What…
I know that sometimes, it seems we are hitting our heads against the brick wall of adoption. Here we are, so few at times, in the trenches, so to speak, with peashooters against the mighty industrial adoption gaint machine. BUT …there is a purpose. Granted the over all goal of many is a complete reform of adoption as we know it, but until that day comes, there are the small…
Long and hard about what is most important for them to know and understand about the adoption of Max. So I came up with this: The need to know that I see it as a huge mistake. That we don’t just, with ease. walk away from our kids. That I cannot just walk away from them. Big, big deal for me The reasoning behind it. Yeah, maybe they won’t get…
Once there was a girl who was not quite a grown up yet. She came to realize that she had a baby growing in her belly. And that made her very scared. So she kept it a secret for a long time. She was afraid of what would happen when she had the baby and she became a mommy. She wasn’t sure that she knew how to be a mommy…
So, one of the things that I need to do before Max actually gets here for his first visit is tell Scarlett and Tristan. I haven;t told them before..well, because it seems cruel in a way. Right now they don’t know they have a bigger than Garin, older brother..so they do not know they have a loss. They cannot miss what they don’t know they have. Plus even though I…
How can I avoid the ever growing laundry pile..let me count the ways. 1) Post a new bold tread about nothing….yeah, that will work! So…I have an awful headache right now. I do believe we call it a hangover. It’s not my fault, really!. I wanted to go to bed early last night! But life happened. My car is in the shop. Had to go in to fix a ton…
Since you seem intent on dicussing Max, I thought I would give you a whole post to yourself. So on a post that really had nothing to directly do with Max and his upcoing visit, you found the need to say: Max landed in just the family he was meant to land in. No mistakes were made. You were the vessel through which he sailed to find where he belonged….
In the course of being “active” with adoption online, I frequently come in contact with pregnant women who are thinking about placing. OK, I’ll admit it..I ( used to ) seek them out and look for them. I do feel the responsibility to give them insights to the big picture, long term ramifications, all the stuff that would really fall under “informed consent” but that we can trust the agencies…
I am really annoyed with my mother in law. It has been kinda building up for a few months. I don’t hold a grudge, but tend to try to overlook things that bother me often, for the sake of peace. But I am at that enough is enough point. She was watching the beasts for me Saturday night while both Rye and I worked. Nprmally, I don’t work on Saturdays,…
I just hopped over to my mailbox and had a message alert fom my Max..so I am all happy..yeah..and then I read it. I am sitting here..shaking in my skin..crying..HE WANTS TO COME AND VISIT!!!!! My Baby..he’s gonna come see me!!! He will get to met his brothers ans sister and me and be here!!! HE’S COMING HOME!!!! God I love this guy!! I just have to share how amazing…
Funny how sometimes I don’t see how much all this thinking about stuff has really changed me..and then I do see it..and it is rather amazing. Why Are People So Afraid of Anger? I work with a young woman who has had a pretty rough road in life. I find her amazing and the word strong is definitely applicable. Her parents and her childhood are way less than perfect. That’s her…
The doorbell just rang and I know it was the UPS man. I was very bad..in a good way..and ordered something 170 dollars worth of books from Amazon. It was Garin;s fault really..he wanted some Ska DVD, but since I HAD to place an order…. I got Adoption Nation for 57cents!! Which is great because I need to read it with my highlighter so I can really know my stuff…