I do not “relax” well. I feel guilty when I am not producing things, making things, painting things, cleaning, things, commenting with a vengeance, writing, building sites, networking, etc. Yet, I have been waking up past TEN FREAKING AM and then staying IN BED until NOON. Yes, really. WTF. And that’s what I was doing on Christmas Eve morning, until, that is, I started crying….
In many ways, you are restarting your life from scratch. You were not a birthmother before. You did not have this child before. Now you do. You are newly born as a mother, as THIS mother, for THIS child and that mother has been relinquished as well. She is gone. You mourn not only your child, but the mother you would have been, the girl who did not live with this sorrow, the woman who didn’t hold sadness in her eyes.
US Adoption Agencies routinely defraud Medicaid for birthmother medical expenses, then double bill adoptive parents and keep the profits. The cost of adoption is taken on by the American tax payer to the tun of 200 million a year!
Adoption Support and Healing in Florida
When: March 28th to 30th, 2014
Where: Celebration Church Tampa Florida
Who: Deanne form Adoptee Restoration and other real therapists!
Register: Right here on InnerHealingConference.com
Fee: 10$ Yup! TEN!
Why it’s considered socially acceptable to permanently seal people’s original birth certificates from them and treat them like perpetual children!
Contact Governor Kasich encouraging him to sign the bill that allows Ohio adoptees adopted 1964 to 1996 to access to their Original Birth Certificate upon request at age 18, starting one year from bill enactment date!
Imagine finding out that your mother ALMOST placed you for adoption. Almost. But she didn’t
It seems that Santa’ Claus’ birthmother, like many birthmothers, she went for what she perceived as “better”, leaving the child originally on the Burgermeister Meisterburger’s front steps. No home study there and we hope he would not have passed the psychological components as he was holding on to just a little bit of anger.
So when you help Cassi be a more successful author by buy “Playing with Fire”, then you put money in her pocket, which in turn, puts money in my bank account, which then allows me to spend more time sitting in fort of the computer all day doing what I do exposing Adoption Truths!
With 18 million people affected by adoption., 1.7 million families affected by military deployment, 26% of kids raised with a sole caregiver, 500,000 kids in foster care, 2,500,000 families affected by incarceration, 200,000 families affect by deportations.. yet togetherness is an American Family Value?
If children are a gift from God then the Birthmother is a regifter!!! Now I don’t know about you, but when you consider adoption to be regifting what God gives you, then I dare say it’s a bit tacky and, again based on my limited churchgoing self, might annoy him when he finds out ( as is unavoidable) that you went and regifted your baby.
Maybe you or she or even some well meaning friends might suggest that your daughter relinquish this baby to adoption and this will, no matter what you might have been lead to believe or what you might read in most publications, will NOT allow her to continue life as planned. By encouraging or supporting your daughter to relinquish her baby to adoption you are, in a most literally, sense helping to destroy the child you now know as your daughter.
We are the kept children, the siblings of the one that got away. We didn’t experience the trauma. We are not the rock and we are not the water. We are THE RIPPLE EFFECT. We are the ones who grew up with damaged parents and phantom brothers and sisters.
Philomena might enlighten folks about adoption “then” but the same audience thinks adoption is all like “Juno” now. It’s one movie depicting one women’s story to find her son stolen by adoption, not the Holy Grail in AdoptionLand.
Forget Tollhouse cookies, show her you really care by baking your birthmother unicorn poop cookies. It’s really just a sugar cookies recipe, BUT a bit more crafty. Maybe you are not the crafty adoptive mom type but, let me put to you this way, she made you baby and I don’t care how you cut it, placenta and amniotic fluid is way messier than some flour on your granite kitchen island, so get over it and get baking.