30 Days of Adoption Activism
For National Adoption Awareness Month, here’s 30 days of adoption activist activities that you can do instead of just complaining about adoption! Spread Adoption Truths outside the walls of AdoptionLand!
October 2013
The Birth Father’s Rights In Adoption
A father shouldn’t have to fight strangers in curt for the right to parent his own child.The adoption “industry” has become expert at circumventing a father’s right to parent his own child.
Geeks and Gamers for Good
It wasn’t fully diagnosed until he was 2, but his pediatrician heard his heart murmur soon after birth. It was hoped that it would clear up on its own as many babies have ventricular holes that do closed up, but his didn’t. So, we were referred to a pediatric cardiologist who did all the chest X-rays and EKGs and echo cardiograms. That’s how it was discovered that my oldest parented child was born with not three flaps on his aortic value, but two.
One Mom’s Journey Coming Out of the Adoption Cellar
A Guest Post About Speaking Out on Adoption Truths: I speak out about adoption, not because of ‘poor me’, but to bring awareness of what is happening in the world with hopes that unethical practices will end.
Musings After the Pumpkin Patch…
There will be no memories of perfect pumpkin days with my oldest son. Yes, I am sure his parents are great and he has the proper days in his past, and if I am lucky, maybe someday I will get to see the pictures. ( I have never seen the pictures)
What’s Wrong with Selling Your Baby for an IPhone?
Why does the adoption middle man sanctify the baby trade? What magic fairy dust does an adoption agency or facilitator or lawyer have that makes it morally acceptable? Why is it OK to give a child away, to relinquish your flesh and blood, to place a child, to abandon a child, to make an adoption plan for a child, to give the “gift” of a child, but not just openly sell the privilege to parenting?
Saturday AdoptionLand Recap October 19th, 2013
Must Reads in AdoptionLand the week of October 19, 2013; things to do, places to comment, stuff to share!
Adoption Corruption Never Sleeps
There was a good chance that the adoption might have just gone through if not for a pesky Family Court Judge who noticed the missing ICPC application from the state of Oklahoma and refused to finalize the adoption! Zionks!
Adoption Movie Review: “Approved for Adoption”
It’s not a easy story. It’s not a happy story, but it is not a horrible story either. It is a real story and most of all; it is Jung’s story and it is his truth. While drawn though a child’s eye, he does not cast a child’s feelings on it and gloss over or seem to exaggerates, but rather the same truthful light of recollection is shown on all. He shows the faults and failings of his whole family and himself. It is not a pity party; it is not a movie of blame. The good as well as the bad is reveled. It is a glimpse inside the emotions of moving through.
People Who Should Never Adopt
It’s not an example, not a snarky joke, but a real email exchange. I know, I know.. I should leave well enough alone, but sometimes it is like picking a scab. You know it is gross and it’s gonna hurt, but I. Just. Can’t Stop. Lord help me if this one ever gets his hands on a child. I guess this is what adoption has come to in this country.
Costs of Adoption: Increased Secondary Infertility Rates Infographic
According to multiple studies, women who relinquish a child to adoption are forty to sixty percent more likely to experience secondary infertility that other mothers. Adoption agencies, facilitators, and counselors are not requires to disclose this information to expectant mothers considering adoption – so of course, they don’t. Does that sound like helping people make INFORMED decisions to YOU?
Costs of Adoption: Genetic Mirroring
For those non adopted, it might seem easy to dismiss the importance of genetic mirroring since we do not have to think about it. It is just there. But it’s like saying that the air we breathe is not important because we don’t think about it and its just there. If we were to not have oxygen for even a few minutes, each and every one of us would be screaming to have it restored. Genetic mirroring is like that.
Thank God! Marcie Cheney Told Me What I was Doing Wrong!
I opened my email box this morning to receive this note from Marcie Cheney, whom, until she found it necessary to email me, I had no idea who she was at all.She shared her generous critique of how I am ineffective, a liability, preaching to the choir and damaging. Oh, and the standard implication that I have to learn to deal with my “stages of grief.” I love getting unsolicited advice from unknown people even if it does feel like beating a dead horse.
Embracing Change: A New Musings of the Lame
The entire look of Musings of the Lame has changed. This is not a problem, this is an opportunity- Seize it! This birthmother blog is not MY soapbox anymore, but is a platform for all of AdoptionLand who has been branded by adoption- seared for life by the Scarlett letter.
Cease and Desist from the Estate Of Maurice Sendak
I received your letter today regarding the Estate of Maurice Sendak on my blog. I do understand what you must do and I am inclined to amicably resolve the matter, though it would be with great sadness, if that is what must be done.