2014

dead birthmothers in the closet

A Birthmothers Life, Birthmother Regrets & Lessons May 19, 2014

Thinking More About the Birthmother Closet

Sometimes, I literally surprise myself when I say things. I did that while on the show. If you note, I did mention the “skeleton” in the closet in my “before” writing. Rather expected and cliché, I know, but when I took it literally, as a real set of bones, which did mean that something died in the closet; then the visual became, I think, a powerful truth. If there is a real place called the birthmother Adoption Closet, then what really died inside was the mother we were supposed to be before surrendering.

Birth father's rights in adoption

A Father's Right May 12, 2014

Unwed Fathers’ Rights Regarding Infant Adoption

“The most commonly contested adoptions occur where mothers want to place children for adoption and fathers object” (Beck, 2007). To prevent other children from being traumatized like Veronica Brown, policies could be revised so a child is not available for adoption until parental rights have been relinquished or terminated. Also that fathers’ rights “be treated no differently than the biological mother, i.e. his parental rights can be terminated involuntarily only upon a showing of unfitness (Spitko, 2006, p. 276).

There is no escaping from Mother’s Day.

A Birthmothers Life, Birthmother Holidays & Adoptee Birthdays May 10, 2014

There Is No Escaping Mother’s Day for Birthmothers

On a day meant to honor motherhood, you can’t help thinking of the one you never get to see. You can’t help missing those who are missing from your life. Mother’s Day, like birthdays and holidays of any sort, become a time to reflect and wonder where your child is and who he honors on that day. Does he think of you? Does he wonder? What is his name and are his eyes as blue?

Adoption Events April 28, 2014

Walking the Talk on the Radio THIS Thursday!

How to Come out of the Adoption Closet and Use Your Voice!

I’ll be chatting with my AAC roomie Adoptee LeAnne Parsons this Thursday May, 1st, 2014
So there is more info on the Facebook event, but in general consider it like an inside view of what Leanne and I talked about as we fell asleep each night in San Francisco at the AAC conference!

Guest Posts April 9, 2014

The Adoption Culture in the UK – Are Things Better Across the Pond?

It must be said, that the biggest downfall in the American adoption system is the agencies that operate within it, a notion that any visitor to this site shall surely agree with. The fact that these are private organisations making a profit from the system commodifies human life. In Britain, then, there is no charge to use the services of an adoption agency, or to enlist one to help you through the adoption process.

An Ethiopian Adoption Search Registry

Adoption News, Searches April 7, 2014

Hope for Ethiopian Families; An Ethiopian Adoption Search Registry

Ethiopian Adoption Connection is a searchable database, the objective of which is to match Ethiopian adoptees living around the world with their families in Ethiopia. I’m really very proud of it. It’s clean and simple which was key. We had to anticipate language and cultural issues, plus privacy verses searchability. Check it out at http://ethiopianadoptionconnection.org/.

Unethical Ohio Adoption Agency March 31, 2014

Bring Camden Home

Returned by the Original Adoptive Family, Camden Sits in Foster while this Agency Refuses to Return Him to his Loving Mother

A horrible injustice happening at this unethical Adoption Agency in Ohio; Adoption by
Gentle Care is holding Baby Camden in foster care while his loving mother fights for the return of her sick child in court.

Yes, this case sounds too horrible to be true, but it is all true.

Please take some time and look around to get an idea of what has been happening since the end of March 2014.

adoption in the media

Adoption News March 25, 2014

Media and News Coverage of Adoption

Adoption in the Media and News Coverage

The media loves adoption.

Only adoption can produce such a range of human interest from the heartwarming reunion stories to the horrors of an adoption gone wrong. It is adoption that gives us our fiercest headline producing custody battles and fluffy bits about the newest addition to a celebrity’s Hollywood brood.

News About Adoption in the United States

Unfortunately, the important news about adoption is usually buried deep or posted online on small local papers, but adoption issues are in the news almost every day.   Get your daily dose here, adoption news all the time. It might be bad, it might be good, but it’s always about adoption.

We don’t make this stuff up!

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Missing persons no closure

Birthmother Grief, Cultural Views on Adoption, Guest Posts March 24, 2014

Missing Persons

What’s the Difference? Family of the Missing Plane or Mother from Adoption

I personally find it difficult to understand why our society in general can grasp these families grief, yet they can’t understand or even acknowledge a mother of adoption loss’ grief. Do mothers not warrant the same compassion and empathy as those that lose a loved one in another fashion? Loss is loss. Grief has no rules as to which situation grants the right to grieve.