Adoption Poetry: “Fallen Angel”

Redeemed by adoption relinquishment

This is adoption poetryMother’s Day is particularly hard for birthmother’s. Leading up to it, we are reminded for weeks, that the day is coming. In a closed adoption, we just wonder. “What is my child doing today. Is his other mother getting a lovely card and a gift? Does he think about me?”  In an open adoption, it’s most likely just as hard, maybe worse, if your child can contact you and does not. And even in reunion  it’s still hard.

We are mothers, but often not recognized as mother’s and silently cry alone, while smiling outside.

 

I have written about it before:

 

Maybe Some Adoption Poetry to Get you Through?

My friend Brenda shared this on Facebook the other day.  She said to share, just credit her name. So in honor of Mother’s Day, I think this is something many birthmothers can related to.

Brenda says:

Every year around Mother’s Day i write a birthmother poem. Usually I read them at a Birthmother’s Day gathering in Ann Arbor. This year I will not be able to because I will be working. The theme this year is “Agape” – selfless love. I had a visceral reaction to the theme. All this selfless talk gives me hives. So I wrote this.

Fallen Angel

By Brenda Romanchik

 

I put the wings on they gave me
Woven of diaphanous words
“Gift giver”
“Selfless”
“Angel”
They kept me aloft for awhile
Where I hovered above my son and his family
Their voices murmurs far below

Soon after
words of stone
tore and bent my fragile wings
They said:
“You are not worthy”
“unneeded”
that they “could never give their baby away.”
And in the night, an inner voice joined their chorus
“you did it for yourself too.”

With tattered wings I slowly descended to earth

The closer I came
Another voice, strong and persistent
soon only slightly out of reach said:
“Let’s play the game”
So I leaned into this game of his own making
and I grabbed him
and I rocked him
and I crooned
“I love you”
“I love you”
“My baby”
“My baby”

And I was grateful
for the two feet firmly planted on the ground.

And I threw the wings away
deciding not to mend them
in order to remain in reach

A fallen angel
Fully human

Mother’s Day 2013

 

 

About the Author

Claudia Corrigan DArcy
Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.