Anti-Adoption Insights

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April 22, 2009

I was combing through my adoption information link list and the list for AAI caught my eye.
For many of us, we “began” online on MSN Groups..Adoption, Adoption Insights, Anti-Adoption Insights.
The first few years of my online existence were over at those places. They are where I learned to write. It’s where I learned…

I clicked it and the site was gone.

All MSN Groups closed in October.

That means AI and the old private group is gone too.

The places where countless hours of my life were spent, where irreplaceable conversations .. is just ..gone. And has been gone since October. Somehow, I had just always assumed, that it would all still be there…waiting. I feel like something has died. I feel horrible really.

Such endless wisdom, such eloquent pain, such sadness, such rage.. we hashed it out. There e was vicious name calling, yet the deepest sharings. The stories that were there. Pieces of human souls, the sufferings, the questions,….People who you hate, yet mostly, there were people that I loved, respected, looked up to, learned from..

It’s all gone. I could cry.

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Claudia Corrigan DArcy
Claudia Corrigan DArcy
Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.

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6 Comments on "Anti-Adoption Insights"

  1. *Peach* | April 22, 2009 at 10:14 am |

    Hi (((Claude))),

    I know. I feel the exact same way. I’ll never forget the first time I found those boards, I would just sit and cry for hours reading people’s deepest feelings and wisdom. It is truly what helped me begin to heal and become real. I wish we could somehow get them back, so as not to lose all those posts.

    Hugs to you, Peach

  2. Jade | April 22, 2009 at 1:50 pm |

    I really owe a lot to the internet and groups and websites for helping me through the most traumatic time in my life. I barely understood what happened to me and it was these groups and orgs that gave me the support and the language to cope and understand. losing a child to adoption is a profound loss no matter the situation or cause. i’m sad that msn has decided to close the groups.we need as many sites and voices as possible.

  3. Yummyabbi | April 22, 2009 at 2:26 pm |

    I went looking for it a few weeks ago. I knew about the msn change over but still hoped it was not deleted. It was very sad to not be able to pull the group up.

  4. FauxClaud | April 22, 2009 at 10:45 pm |

    I just wish I had known.. I suppose they alerted me, but that was such a long ago abandoned filled with spam email addy.. I would never, I didn’t see it…

    I would have gone in and copied and pasted the thousands of posts and threads..I would have. It might have killed me, but I would have.
    When I think of the threads when Jordon/Elena actually decided to keep Jazz instead of placing her…

    The threads of finding Max…oh thank GOD I moved all our first conversations OFF there or they would have been lost too..

    Some pieces of writings that I Knew were there, but thought of as “in the AAI filing cab”.. I mean, it’s been too long since I went over.. obviously.. but I would go and refrence at times.. when I knew I needed somthing.. I knew where things were..

    It was my timeline!It’s where I was born.. really.. where it all began.

  5. Krista | January 13, 2011 at 6:39 pm |

    I wish I had not lost contact with so many of those good people. Where have they all gone???

  6. FauxClaud | January 14, 2011 at 2:09 am |

    Krista!
    I can’t believe so many are just not “online” anymore! I know where a hadful are.. or rather WHO they really are on Facebook.. but there just doesn’t seem to be many of us all left…makes me sad everytime I think of it…
    There is:
    YummiAbby
    Peach
    Kali
    Robin is still around of course..
    SlyYoung
    GypsyChris
    Bry

    and I’ll be damned if I can think of one more…

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