However, since GSA is often a part in adoption reunions, I would actually say that it is NORMAL to the adoption experience and again, another reason WHY we must talk about it and acknowledge that it is here. I have seen it stated in some places that GSA feelings can occur in 50% of adoption reunion situations. That makes it common to the adoption experience.
The Ugly Mythology of Motherhood Today A few weeks ago, we met up with some friends who have a lovely child who is just about two. The mom and I were talking about the inevitable “terrible twos” and her concerns that her daughter hits. I was in my soothing “older mom been there done that” role and was saying how all kids hit at age two. I do call it…
Over at Grown in My Heart it’s Adoption Carnival Time again! This time the topic is poetry. I ‘m not awful big on poetry, but I have a little something something I can recycle for today. *** I always say I am “First Generation MTV” which basically means that I was at the perfect age when MTV launched to be perfectly impressionable.. and MTV helped shape my life. I think it…
And the Hope Never Dies I tell myself not to expect anything. I know not to set myself up for disappointment, but still, it’s impossible to avoid. For years, my mother’s day routine has been to go out and get myself all my spring annuals and just spend the day gardening my fool self off. Then, starting off from the years of being a single mom to one little boy…
Listly is a third party site that is great for group collaboration. It’s easy to sign in, make a profile and collaborate. I usually make a new Adoption List for subjects that seem to be wide conversations in AdoptionLand. For instance if a bunch of adoption bloggers are all talking about similar subjects, a Listly list allows us all to keep them in one place.
Listly updates in real time. So when you add something to The Adoption Lists, where ever the list is embedded, that list updates too. Even if you are not participating in a particular Adoption list, you can help by sharing the list link or, even better, embedding the list on your own blog or website.
To Embed an Adoption List: all you have to do is click the embed icon on that list and choose the code that your site needs. Most of them work just fine with Java Script HTML.
Sharing and embedding The Adoption List is a great way to help support the Adoption Community!
I have learned so much from being a parent. I have learned so much from being thrust into the reality of adoption. I have learned so much form my journey online. I have learned so much from the pain of life. My head has been spinning lately and my heart feels heavy. I haven’t been writing because I have been thinking too fast. Life keeps coming and I can’t find…
Must be something in the air. Heading into NYC Tomorrow For a Birthmother Documentary Looking really forward to the day in the city. Bonnie and I, my live-in-the-same-town-now-were-pregnant-andrelinquished-at-the-same-time friend, are both going down tomorrow for filming. And added bonus: We are meeting up with Suz and Kish! More Moms Who Relinquished Needed Gregg Grossman is the documentary film maker and he is looking for more moms. I do know…
Ah. …a new year. Despite it’s less than auspicious beginnings ( I felt kind of icky in the belly going into New Year’s Eve celebrations and champagne did not help; so the first of the year was most unpleasant and often found me moaning in the loo), I feel good about 2010. A Decade gets it Due I usually pretty impresses by the turning of a decade. Even though I…
I don’t know why, but the responses to my last post about my dreading with November was overwhelming to me. It wasn’t that people responded with kindness; I actually expect the innate goodness and compassion of most. It wasn’t that my feelings obviously resonate to what other moms feel during the birthday months of our relinquished children either. It was more like I was so struck at how very similar…
Here it comes. I don’t know why I am surprised. It’s November. It’s National Adoption Awareness Month. Max’s Birthday is on Saturday. My due date for him was tomorrow November 12th. Into the Season of Max I roll.. Gotcha Gotcha Gotcha! I feel the big cranky coming on. Tuesday night when I found myself almost in tears over a pretty much a nothing conversation with Rye, I immediately thought “PMS?”,…
I knew I would have to write about Where the Wild Things Are. How could I not? From the earliest hummings of a this Spike Jonze’s Where the Wild Thing Are movie coming to fruition, every ounce of my soul has rejected the reality that I now face. I haven’t wanted to hear about this movie. I haven’t wanted to think about it. I haven’t wanted to face it. I…
Recently, I added some Really Bright Red Highlights to my Hair Now if you have ever been a phony red head like me, then you might be able to relate to what I am about to say, if not, then you’ll have to take my word on it: Being a Red Head is like having Anorexia of the Hair. Now, I don’t mean that in a way to mock people…
It’s going to be a challenge this weekend, but I have to do it. I just can’t believe these “days off” are so jam packed… We have a wedding today/tonight, which I had thought was on Sunday! Thankfully, it worked out and the kids went to Grandma’s, but I think we will have to miss the actual wedding part and only hit the reception. Unfortunately, Rye MUST answer phones all…
Friday night, the kids are all gone.. Rye is torturing me with rap music and I am making my way through the GIMH Adoption Blog Carnival.. As a birthmother, I do not, will not, speak for adoptess, but I do not have to. This list must be shared: 73adoptee – adoption search, reunion and reform: Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Was Adopted
Adoption was almost more like a crack that happened in my soul. A crack that that I thought and was encouraged to believe that would be temporary or always below the surface. Over time, the rest of life worked it’s way in, like water in cement and caused the very foundation of myself to crumble