Back On HuffPoLIVE for Adoption
They Call it: “Why I Gave My Child Up For Adoption” but it has very little to do with why…but we chat abut adoption on Huffington Post for NAAM2013
A Birthmothers Life
Public Worries and Celebrations; The Adoptee Birthday
Today, I shall find reasons to celebrate. My son was born 26 years ago today and though was separated from him for 19 years and 111 days until I saw him again, his birth is known and celebrated among many people he doesn’t know. A whole community thinks about him on this day and it was his birth that started it all.
Day 14 of Adoption Activism; NAAM2013 – Engage with Portrait of an Adoption
Introducing What “Anti-Adoption” Means to A New Group of Folks & hopefully reframe the concept of being “anti -adoption” in a way that is palatable for anyone who wants what is best for children and mothers and parents overall. These are very important conversations to have especially when they can reach a wider audience with many who have never even had the reason to think this way before.
Searching for Adoption Healing and Birthmother Advice
It’s bad enough that the adoption industry is still promoting that somehow it is OK to relinquish a baby to adoption and that the long term effects of relinquishment on birthmothers does not exists despite all the scientific research to the quandary. But by putting the impossible task to “healing from relinquishment” on the actual birthmother; they are also setting her up to fail.
10 Things Open Adoption Opened Me To …
Open adoption costs Entering into adoption affects people in profound ways. I cannot speak to the birth mother’s experience or how the kept children may feel (though my siblings have shared some of their feelings with me). But as an adoptee, there were certain costs of adoption to me even in open adoption. Open adoption was supposed to “solve” some of the problems associated with closed adoption such as genetic…
How Can We Trust the Expectant Mother to Make the Choice in Adoption?
I feel COMPLETELY different when it comes to adoption. With abortion, I trust a women to know what she wants and exercise her right to make an informed choice. With adoption, I feel like she has no clue, cannot know what she wants and is not making an informed choice. This has plagued me. Why are my feelings different?
The Presentation of Open Adoption Information
I noticed most of the open adoption information is very general. Then I noticed the language that was being used – and it was manipulative. Lastly, I noticed how the information was being presented – and again, it was manipulative.
Day 7 of Adoption Activism; NAAM2013- Petition & Discussion on Open Sealed Adoption Records
Even though Paul Fronczak is not really an adoptee, his quest to find out who he really is has been a way to bring that natural need to the forefront on ABC’s 20/20, so let’s talk about Adoptee Rights issues!
The “Unknown” Father in Adoption
The intent behind “protecting” a person from the ugly or not so ugly truth about one’s self might be begun as a kindness, but it is still a lie. So even if you love the person you wish to protect, you are betraying their trust and making a decisions for them based on your feelings, not theirs. You are not trusting them enough with knowledge that is theirs, not yours, to withhold. Truth is truth and no amount of wishing can change that.
Day 3 of Adoption Activism; NAAM2013 – Sign Adoption Petitions
Two Adoption Petitions. As they are both on Change.org you can sign in with Facebook and spam everyone you know. I do it often. It’s fun. You could first post on Facebook that people better sign them or you will start spamming the crap out of them. I do that too. It works.
Geeks and Gamers for Good
It wasn’t fully diagnosed until he was 2, but his pediatrician heard his heart murmur soon after birth. It was hoped that it would clear up on its own as many babies have ventricular holes that do closed up, but his didn’t. So, we were referred to a pediatric cardiologist who did all the chest X-rays and EKGs and echo cardiograms. That’s how it was discovered that my oldest parented child was born with not three flaps on his aortic value, but two.
One Mom’s Journey Coming Out of the Adoption Cellar
A Guest Post About Speaking Out on Adoption Truths: I speak out about adoption, not because of ‘poor me’, but to bring awareness of what is happening in the world with hopes that unethical practices will end.
Musings After the Pumpkin Patch…
There will be no memories of perfect pumpkin days with my oldest son. Yes, I am sure his parents are great and he has the proper days in his past, and if I am lucky, maybe someday I will get to see the pictures. ( I have never seen the pictures)
Costs of Adoption: Increased Secondary Infertility Rates Infographic
According to multiple studies, women who relinquish a child to adoption are forty to sixty percent more likely to experience secondary infertility that other mothers. Adoption agencies, facilitators, and counselors are not requires to disclose this information to expectant mothers considering adoption – so of course, they don’t. Does that sound like helping people make INFORMED decisions to YOU?
Cease and Desist from the Estate Of Maurice Sendak
I received your letter today regarding the Estate of Maurice Sendak on my blog. I do understand what you must do and I am inclined to amicably resolve the matter, though it would be with great sadness, if that is what must be done.