I Declare WAR on Troy Dunn. Ok, not that he really cares, but I shall NEVER say a somewhat good thing about Troy Dunn, his adoption search services, or “The Locator” shows again. In fact, if I ever hear anyone else in the world say a decent thing about Troy Dunn the Locator, I will denounce Troy the Locator loudly and quite vocally for all to hear.
I have remain fairly consistent in my approach from the get go. I am not a terribly confrontational person, nor I am into being all angry. That’s just my way. It doesn’t mean I do not get angry, but I prefer to communicate in a fashion that makes it easy to see beyond my anger. There are those who feel and function much the way I do, and those who don’t. I am not going to tell people that they must do it my way. But I happen to feel that the less angry approach is WHAT GETS HEARD.
What: First Families Against Adoption Trafficking Event
When: July 20th, 2012; 1:00 to 3:00 pm
Where: Lacey Timberland Library, Lacey Washington State
http://www.trlib.org/Locations/Pages/LibraryInformation.aspx?lib=la
Bonus: Peter Dodds!
I have a little bedtime story to tell you my friends. Some of you shared the moments leading up to this, actual, fairy tale ending a you had been participating during the creation of it. Many of you have a part in making it become a happy ending, and that’s why this story gets it own post. If you have been with me up to that point, please feel free to skip down, but don’t go! Our story is NOT over yet! And it’s worth it, I promise! There is a VERY happy ending!!
I just willingly did the “Adoption Perspectives” show on “Powerful” Christian talk radio with two adoptive mothers. Sounds like I spent a lot of time deflecting stereotypes and horrible comments, You would think I spent an hour defending my right to be considered a mother? Not even once it was basically a love fest. As in, there was this crazy mutual agreement. I didn’t censor my words once. I didn’t hold back any opinion. And there was not one disagreement at all. Not. One. How in God’s name did this happen?
“Would the adoption advocates PLEASE come out in full force in DC tomorrow at the surrogacy hearing. Please, we need to hear from you!”
What: TESTIFY Judiciary and Public Safety: Bill 20-32, the Surrogacy Parenting Agreement Act of 2013
When: Thursday, June 20, 2013 at 11:30AM
Where: Council of the District of Columbia- Room 412; 1350 Pennsylvania Avenue, N.W. Washington, D.C. 20004
To each and every one of us who has known the pain of empty arms, I am sorry that you have been hurt in this way by the adoption industry, but let us keep focus on those who have hurt us, the adoption industry, not those who suffered the same fate. Yes, you have your own feelings, your own story, your own truth and your own beliefs. They are yours, they have a place and you have a right to share them. However, we cannot dilute the strength of one, but should add to it. We should not be screaming to be heard, but taking turns lifting each other up in support. We should not be angry when another’s views are different, but understand that each mother has different resting places along the journey. We should not begrudge mother who chooses to use different tools or uses different language especially when we have the same common goals, a share vision.
June 22, Saturday-Chicago, IL- TruHarmony Yoga, 900 N. Franklin Ave. http://insideoutadoption.com/chicago.html
June 29, Saturday -Richmond, VA- coordinators2 inc, 8100 Three Chopt Road, Suite 101: http://insideoutadoption.com/richmond.html
June 30, Sunday-Washington, DC The Viva Center, 1555 Connecticut Ave. NW: http://insideoutadoption.com/dc.html
July 6, Saturday-Boston, MA – The Home for Little Wanderers, 50 Redfield St. (Dorchester): http://insideoutadoption.com/boston.html
July 7, Sunday -Westfield, MA- Genesis Spiritual Life & Conference Center, (near the Berkshires) http://insideoutadoption.com/genesis.html Genesis Inside Out Facebook Event Page For This Seminar – https://www.facebook.com/events/588806021154315/
Assume that all children who have been adopted or fostered have experienced trauma.” says the American Academy of Pediatrics in new guide.
By 2015, adoption agencies in Korea will NO LONGER be allowed to run unwed mothers facilities, mothers MUST have one week AFTER giving birth before they relinquish and single mothers get additional support to parent.
In contrast, almost every single one of the US adoption groups supports OBC access for adult adoptees and has, for the most part, since they were begun..some in the 1970’s. They made more progress in 5 years in Korean than we have managed to do in the past 40 plus years in the USA.
Because they worked together. Can I say that again? They work together. And now, I shall rant.
It was with great anticipation that I waited for The Child Catchers. Sadly, while we can all blog, and self publish, and get memoirs going, the “non biased” pen of the non adoption affected if often needed to bring the anecdotal facts home for the general public. It’s like they can’t believe “us”, probably because they do not want to, and dismiss it as “your experience” believing us “too close” to see the full picture. Making Kathryn’s eyes, her words, like balm on the ever oozing wound.
The Child Catchers- Rescue, Trafficking and the New Gospel of Adoption is a must read, must have on any adoption bookshelf.
So What Difference Does it Make That A Act of Love is a For-Profit Agency?
The bigger question is why this agency has been allowed to be a member of National Council For Adoption. Doesn’t NCFA have a vetting process for its members? Or does it simply enroll agencies that can afford its membership fees? Does NCFA even know it has a for-profit agency in its corral?
The Michigan Republican’s seem very proud of their efforts per their “news brief” on these adoption bills. Based on the literature, they are claiming to “will help Michigan mothers and children” and of course, how could that be a bad thing? The ( more than) five separate and quite complicated bills are being added in to the already existing maze of Michigan adoption laws on the books under the general heading of adoption. It becomes easy to see how the general public gets confused regarding all the many aspects of adoption and jumbles it up in a happy every after story mess when our leaders are so guilty of the same.
WHO: Donaldson Adoption Institute
WHEN: June 11th, 2013 6:30 to 9:00 PM
WHERE: The Century Association at7 W 43rd St New York, NY 10036
BONUS: Ann Fessler will be there!
I look at the photographs of my childhood and I can see the big smiles, and all the gifts under the Christmas tree. I can see how most people would look at me and see a happy adopted 16.5 year old girl. Most people would think I am lucky to have two families, other adopted people may think I am fortunate to know my genetic history, my heritage and where I came from. But what I see is different from what other people see; I can plainly see the pain behind the smile.