So the glee that has been felt that the evil Infant Adoption Awarness training grant (8.6 million in our tax money and went to four different “groups” to make the trainings..the largest one, with the biggest chunk of the pie was the National Council for Adoption ( recieved 6.1 million)..aka the big fat adoption lobby group that of course WANTS to promote adoption.) is over this year, has been short lived.

The federal report issues AFTER the grants were relaeased concluded:
“Infant adoption as part of a non-directve counselling to pregnant woman is an accepted and adhered to standard amoung clinicians in federally funded health clinics” So, in short, the training was deemed unnecessary, but hey why not save money or put it towards helping moms parent thier kids…??

Ah, they never learn, just this week we learned that the federal government is still funding this rediculous thing:

Lutheran Social Services to get $1M adoption grant
PUBLISHED: September 29, 2006

Lutheran Social Services of South Dakota will get a $1 million federal grant from the Department of Health and Human Services for the National Infant Adoption Awareness Program.
This money will be used to improve awareness and knowledge of infant adoption among health care workers.
Lutheran Social Services of South Dakota is part of a six-state coalition that has been providing training on infant adoption to health care providers for the past two years. The new money will support their program for another five years.
In South Dakota, nearly 1,600 children are in the foster care system.
– From staff reports

Now back in March, South Dakota was daring enough to ban abortion. Funny, first they make it impossible for women to abort and now they get federal moneys to promote adoption?? Hmmm…make one wonder doe it not?

Now who will get these funds to promote adoption? Well this is the list:

Bethany Christian Services – Rapid City, SD
Catholic Charities – Fargo, ND
Catholic Social Services – Great Falls, MT & Billings, MT
Children’s Service Society – Salt Lake City, UT
Hope’s Promise – Castle Rock, CO
Lutheran Family Services – Colorado Springs, CO & Denver, CO
Lutheran Social Services – Billings, MT
Lutheran Social Services – Rapid City, SD & Sioux Falls, SD
The Village Family Service Center – Fargo, ND
Wyoming Children’s Society – Cheyenne, WY

Hmmm..again! Let’s see…..all these places PROFIT from adoption! Interesting coinsidence, don’t cha’ think?

Now WHAT exactly does this Infant Adoption Awarness Training comply of??..I mean after all…women need to make choices, right? And for some adoption might be the best plan of action. Education and real information about choices is a good idea. And it can’t hurt just to hear information about adoption..so what harm can come of training professionals to know the answers to bring up the “Adoption Option” .. they need the facts right? And after all this is the government that came up with this, they wouldn;t LIE would they??

This is from the actual training issued by the NCFA: I shall be getting an actual copy of the training. But this is some of the obvious LIES they were “training” folks with..and the trainees..they got hotel accomadations, food, travel stipends etc…

Q: Compared with unmaiired mothers that parent thier children, unmarried teens who make an adoption plan generally:
A-are more likely to finish school and recieve a higher degree of education**** right answer***
B-Are more likely to marry within a few years and have more children right away
C- Regret making an adoption plan and not being able to parent thier own child.

Q: Children placed for adoption as infants have
A-more emotional and socail problems then children rasied by their biological parents
B-Less emotional and socail problems then children rasied by their biological parents**right answer***
C-Have better oputcomes when adoption is open and non-confidential

Q:When discussing optios with pregnant clients it is best to:
A- Help the client make a fully informed choice***right answer***B-Let the client make a choice in a non directive manner ( which is what they were SUPPOSE TO DO??? but it is the wrong answer…WTF!!)
C-Fully support any decision the client makes

Q: Many teens report that they did not consider adoption becasue:
A-They could never givetheir baby away to a stranger
B-No one raised the issue of adoption with them***right answer***
C-They are hoping to have a relationship with the father of the child

Q:Research shows that birthmothers who make an adoption plan:
A- Usually regret the decision
B-Are likely to experince lng term mental health problems
C-Report a high degree of satisfactin with their decison**right answer***

Hmmm…does this at ALL sound like some of the stuff that moms who have lived with adoption have been saying???? Does this sound at all like TRUTH???

Now the Counsellors exepeinces after the training??
Some were pleased. The majority had negative experinces. Told to promote adoption and discourage parenting.
Told to views clients as unable to make good choices.
Training was often religious even though government funded. ( himm..church and state conflict?? oh, ignore that! We are saving babies!!!)

Now the guidlines of the original grant were issued on a national level in 2001..the main one being”on an equal basis with all other courses of action included in NONDIRETIVE counselling, BUT let us repeat: Told to views clients as unable to make good choices…so they were to DIRECT THEM!

YET, also on a federal level, at the Child Information Gatway we find this Which includes, again conflicting with the government funded training above..Many birth parents continue to mourn the loss of their child throughout their lifetime, but with varying intensity. For instance, birth parents may continue to track the milestones of their child’s life by imagining birthday parties, first days of school, graduation, and more. Some birth parents experience longstanding grief, that is, grief that lasts a very long time and may continue to actually interfere with a birth parent’s life many years later.
and
The personal stories of some birth parents, as well as studies with birth parents in therapy, have indicated that some birth parents experience difficulties beyond longstanding grief (see, for example, Winkler & van Keppel, 1984). For instance, some birth parents may have trouble forming and maintaining relationships. This may be due to lingering feelings of loss and guilt, or it may be due to a fear of repeating the loss. Other birth parents may attempt to fill the loss quickly by establishing a new relationship, marrying, or giving birth again—without having dealt with the grief of the adoption placement. A few birth parents report being overprotective of their subsequent children, because they are afraid of repeating the experience of separation and loss (Askren & Bloom, 1999).

A great article about why this is just insane is here.

I just keep shaking my head.