I am really annoyed with my mother in law.
It has been kinda building up for a few months. I don’t hold a grudge, but tend to try to overlook things that bother me often, for the sake of peace. But I am at that enough is enough point.

She was watching the beasts for me Saturday night while both Rye and I worked. Nprmally, I don’t work on Saturdays, only the days that Rye is off so we don’t have kid issues, but it was a fill in. We have two people out at the resturant on sick leave, two more just moved out of state, and another is on vacation..so with 5 people out, I have picked up some slack.

I felt as though I gave her the opportunity to hang out with the kids even though it did help me as last Saturday we had the same situation and I had asked her if she wanted them mid week. She didn;t give me a straigt answer, so come Staurday morning, I had made Garin stay home from his snowboarding plans to babysit. He likes to baby sit as I will pay him and he does a better job that way. We have a really good sitter too, but it is nice when he earns money so we opt for that and he doea a good job. Anyay, after making him cancel his plans, she calls me at NOON to say she will take them..and I was like..nah, I already made Grain change his plans..and that’s not fair so the kids are going to stay home. As if I could NOT have a childcare plan at 12 noon when I have to work at three??? Duh!
Ok, so this week, I fiqure I will give her the chance again. And I ask on Tuesday. And she does not committ, but I call on Thursday and say..last chance..do you want them and she says yes. Ok Great. So she says that they will sleep over as then we don’t have to get them all crazy late..which is what happens..Rye finishes up and get the kids like 10:30 at niht and that is disruptive etc. Fine. Great Garin is going snowbaording, Rye and I work, kids go to grandma’s..everyone is happy.

So on SUnday noght I have to work again. This time Garin had a skatebaord tingy, so I had the sitter lined up..but then Grain got grounded anyway, plus the snow..so he elected to watch them. As I said..I don;t really care..someone will get paid for this..it might as well be him.
So she calls like at 1ish and tells Rye they are leaving now to bring them home. At 2:45 she calls again, to tell me that they are leaving now. OK…SO I say, “well, I guess I will probably miss you then”
“Why?”
“I have to go to work.”
“But you don’t work Sundays!”
“Well, we have 5 people out and I was asked to work. So I am working”
She says something about the snow..which was a dud of a storm..roads were fine. And granted I expected the place to be dead, and I will be home early, but I had already called and I am needed so I am going in. So se says that it is “Dumb, and I should not work because I have two kids and no one to watch them”
So I very calmly and clearly tell her that I do have someone to watch them, their brother is more than capapble and I HAD a outside sitter, but I don’t need her since G is home and it’s fine.
I can tell she does not “approve”
So when I am in the shower, she calls and tells Garint hat they ae going to the store first and will be by “later”
Ok..fine. I tell Garin to expect her to be later as I think she does not improve..he will probably see them before bed..so make sure they have had dinner and put them to bed. Enjoy the “easy” babysitting.
I call at like 6:30 from work..they are still not home. So I fiqure they are eating out. SHe lives about 30 minutes from me. They come to wher I live to shop, etc..so they are close by.
I come home at 10:30 AND THEY ARE STILL NOT HOME!!
So I call Rye, who had already left work to get them. My kids come home at 11:30. I am pissed. Rye is pissed. Garin is pissed.
Garin is mad that he didn’t earn any money, he waited for them all day, and he could have gone out to dinner with his dad, but said no as he was waiting for the kids. Oh and because she didn’t trust him to watch the kids.
Rye is mad that she hadn;t talked directly to me about the plan..he thought I had approved. And he had to go get that at butt o clock..she had called him at work and said “when do you get done?? You have to come get them” And he does NOT like them having their sleep disruppted, plus he called before he was leaving and said get them ready..and when he got their they were still asleep, car seats not ready, etc.
I am just annoyed that MY plan for MY children was overruled without asking me because she dissparoved! I am annoyed enough to tell her which is HUGE. I know she is going to give me a lie of BS and I am not gonna buy it.

She has a history of doing this. She avoids any conflict so much that she makes ME look like a war monger. In the past, if she wanted to keep the kids longer, she wouldn;t call..she would just ‘go missing” for hours while we would wait for them and then call and say they were sleeping. I let it go.

She “re-dresses” them when she has them..I let it go.

Last year, when I was literally working 80 hours a week at two full time jobs…and we were still strappped for cash..I heard her say to me like 50 times, how she would watch the kids for us if Rye got a job in the evening…”If you guys lived ckloser I would quit my job and watch the kids for you”
So when we changed out..and Rye worked days..I kept the RESTURANT job so I could work 3:30 to god knows when…so she could work till 2 and then I would shlep the kids to her..making my 15 minute commuite to and hour and 20 minutes..and he would get them around 7 ish…instead of keepng my CAREER job and working days…For two months this kinda worked..and then she started spazing out..couldn’t handle it, but intead of saying so, just became really, really unreliable. So I cut down on my hours..and now we just never have a full day off together. Whatever..I let it go.

So many things..I have let go. I try to understand, I try not to care…I am done letting go.
Yesterday, my last nerve got frayed.
What fun!