Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Five Lies About Grief & What No One Tells You about Birthmother’s Losses

In many ways, you are restarting your life from scratch. You were not a birthmother before. You did not have this child before. Now you do. You are newly born as a mother, as THIS mother, for THIS child and that mother has been relinquished as well. She is gone. You mourn not only your child, but the mother you would have been, the girl who did not live with this sorrow, the woman who didn’t hold sadness in her eyes.



Inner Healing Conference in Florida

Adoption Support and Healing in Florida

When: March 28th to 30th, 2014
Where: Celebration Church Tampa Florida
Who: Deanne form Adoptee Restoration and other real therapists!
Register: Right here on InnerHealingConference.com
Fee: 10$ Yup! TEN!





NEWFLASH: Santa Claus is an Adoptee

It seems that Santa’ Claus’ birthmother, like many birthmothers, she went for what she perceived as “better”, leaving the child originally on the Burgermeister Meisterburger’s front steps. No home study there and we hope he would not have passed the psychological components as he was holding on to just a little bit of anger.



Separation Nation

With 18 million people affected by adoption., 1.7 million families affected by military deployment, 26% of kids raised with a sole caregiver, 500,000 kids in foster care, 2,500,000 families affected by incarceration, 200,000 families affect by deportations.. yet togetherness is an American Family Value?



To the Parents Who Just Found Out Their Daughter is Pregnant

Maybe you or she or even some well meaning friends might suggest that your daughter relinquish this baby to adoption and this will, no matter what you might have been lead to believe or what you might read in most publications, will NOT allow her to continue life as planned. By encouraging or supporting your daughter to relinquish her baby to adoption you are, in a most literally, sense helping to destroy the child you now know as your daughter.




Adoption Gift Ideas; The Perfect Birthmother Gift Basket!

Forget Tollhouse cookies, show her you really care by baking your birthmother unicorn poop cookies. It’s really just a sugar cookies recipe, BUT a bit more crafty. Maybe you are not the crafty adoptive mom type but, let me put to you this way, she made you baby and I don’t care how you cut it, placenta and amniotic fluid is way messier than some flour on your granite kitchen island, so get over it and get baking.