Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Why Did The Original Adoptive Family Give Camden Back?

On April 27th, 2014, the Pre-adoptive family was sent an email explaining that Carri had changed her mind, we had thought the biological father would also fight the adoption, that AGC had potentially made some unethical if not illegal moves. Based on those reasons and some media pressure, they returned Camden back to the agencies custody which was all that they could legally do.


I’m No Secret

My birth mother’s husband knew about me from the beginning. He married my birth mother after I was out of the picture. I remember him pulling me aside in their living room and saying how he regretted he couldn’t see what I looked like. He had lost most of his vision to cataracts and diabetes and could only see shadows and outlines. We shared my secret in common, he the only cast member in this charade that seemed real.


Where is Baby Camden Now?

He is in Foster Care.

That is where Adoption by Gentle Care has choose to “place” him for now because of the high legal risk and after the original adoptive family returned him.



What Can We Save From Veronica Rose Brown’s “Adoption” Fiasco

See, Dusten Brown did NOT voluntarily relinquish and give his consent to have his child Veronica Rose Brown Adopted. That part is not in question. The original trial found that he did not consent and based on the ICWA, a father of native child must consent. When the Supreme Court of the United States threw out the use of ICWA as unconstitutional, Dusten Browns consent was no longer required and essentially, it does not matter what he wants.





Veronica Rose Brown Court Transcripts Point to More Corruption in Adoption

Why Was the Guardian ad Litem Already Biased for the Adoptive Parents? By her own admission; because she had been working with the Capobiancos before the BIRTH of Veronica.I’m so very curious on how a woman appointed to act in the best interests of a child, could do so before she is even born. Even the SOCTUS said the following about about her that really, if she had connections before, are untrue:

“The Guardian ad Litem, Ms. Jo M. Prowell (“the Guardian”), is the duly appointed representative of the respondent child (“Baby Girl”) in these proceedings, with standing to file this brief on Baby Girl’s behalf. The Guardian exhaustively considered the respondent child’s best interests and concluded that they clearly would be served by allowing her adoptive parents to retain custody.”




The Adoption Cyber Bully Map

Are you an out right asshole hiding behind the fact that you hope no one in your real life will figure out that you are an out right cyber bully? I’m gonna find you.


The Truth about Veronica Rose Brown

Oh look! I happen to have the actual court transcripts of The Direct and Cross Examination of Christy Maldonado in Adoptive Couple vs Baby Girl dated September 13, 2011 Now before I share this bit of court document candy with you, I do want to take a moment to point out Judge Malphrus’ Bench Ruling on this aspect of the case as it SPECIFICALLY relates to the issue of Dusten Brown’s attempts to support Christy Maldonado and his unborn daughter Veronica Rose Brown AND also to the issue of what rights he “signed away.” Being that, you know, those are the most common nails in his coffin of public opinion and why he should lose his daughter again.


Recalculating the Grays

At the same moment that I relished that feeling, I hated it. The second, I felt that I was doing exactly what I should have been doing, I wished I was on a different path. The confidence that I have found my true calling in life makes me curse the God’s that placed me here. I wonder in amazement that I am living a life of value and then I shudder with dread. In two seconds, I can be so sure, and then all at once wish more than anything else that I was lost in bland life of mediocrity. It’s my almost daily struggle as a birthmother.


Not Anti Adoption

I don’t have a problem with the IDEA of adoption. I am not ‘anti-adoption’ What I have a problem with, is what adoption has BECOME. And what it has done to people.This isn’t how it should be.