Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

I Call Bullshit on the American Dream

Cultural Views on Adoption September 22, 2012

Calling Bullshit on the Ideal of the American Dream

The American Dream, Communism, Adoption, Trickledown Economics all look good on paper, but none of them take into account the reality of Human Nature. We are selfish, we are greedy and we will take the advantage. We have feelings and emotions and hearts and souls that should be considered EQUALLY important, but they are not. We live in a world where those who have power and money can buy their way to and get what they want, while the rest of us must be content with crumbs.

Adoption services assocaites goes down

Adoption News September 14, 2012

Adoption Services Associates Goes Bad, Abrazo Adoption Associates Does Good

A Call for Help After Adoption Corruption in San Antonio I have never endorsed an Adoption Agency, but I am not above helping a good one especially when they are on the side of right. This is one of the cases. Earlier this year one of Texas’ largest and most notorious adoption agencies went under. Adoption Services Associates, or ASA as it was “affectingly” abruptly shut its doors and claimed…

Birthmother Grief September 9, 2012

National Tragedies, Silent Tragedies

The Twin Towers could really have not fallen down. I could not have really given away my baby.
This isn’t real. It can’t be true. It didn’t really happen, right? With the same horror, my mind tells myself that both. are our sad reality.
And yeah, so I sit around at least once a year and cry. I still miss the World Trade Center. I still my son.I believe I always will.

Father's Rights in Adoption are even worse than the mothers

Searches September 5, 2012

Facebook Father Son Fail

He and his biological father had a mini reunion before he went away to the Marines that didn’t go so great, but considering everything that went down before hand, wasn’t that horrible. I personally think Rye was young then and was still rightfully angry at both his father figures.. one for beating him and the other for turning his back and letting him be abused.

Marching for Adoptee Rights 2012

Adoptee Rights, Community August 29, 2012

Adoptionland: What We Give, What We Get

Now, I don’t subscribe to any version of “it’s meant to be” in AdoptionLand. I was not destined to be a birthmother and lose my child unnecessary just to make someone else’s dreams come true, but there are silver linings to this life I have now. If I have to be a birthmother, I am a pretty damn happy one. Since I cannot change my past, all the hurt and sadness an anger have a healthy direction to go in.

There is no such thing as forcible rape

Adoption, Adoption Info Graphics August 27, 2012

Numbers of Truth for Rape & Conception

A Premier in Pretty Colors for Dumb Politician About a week ago, I was gifted with a link to a study published in 2010 called Giving Birth to a “Rapist’s Child”: A Discussion and Analysis of the Limited Legal Protections Afforded to Women Who Become Mothers Through Rape by Shauna R. Prewitt. Thank you, Paula for sending me the link! Considering the recent discussions in the media regarding “forcible rape”…

Adoption language and use of the word birthmother for SEO

Adoption Questions and Facts August 19, 2012

How do People Search and Find Adoption Information Online

What the date tells me above is what I already know. If you are writing about adoption, then the word adoption needs to be used. And if one is writing about issues in adoption that pertain to being a mother who relinquished, then I want those 1/3 a million monthly searches to have a chance of finding things here and that means using the word birthmother. I won’t call you one, but I’m going to write with it.

Had to drive through a tornado producing storm to get to Adoptee Rights Demonstration in Chicago!

Adoptee Rights, Community August 5, 2012

Chicago 2012: 16 Hours and a Tornado Producing Storm

We knew there were bad storms about as Cassi reported driving through them in Iowa. I have seen some huge thunderstorms in my life, but nothing like this. This was the same storm cell that made them evacuate Lalapalooza in Chicago yesterday. I knew it was bad. I knew we were in tornado country. I watch storm chasers. I know what hail and cloud hooks and circular wind patterns mean.

Adoptee Rights July 30, 2012

Why We Fight For Adoptee Rights

As one week from today is the Adoptee Rights Demonstration in Chicago, Illinois I would like to propose a celebratory meme. Even if you can’t physically be there, you can help pepper the internet air waves with news and the reasons why you support Adoptee Rights!

exploiting pregnant women

Adoption Truth, Community, Cultural Views on Adoption, Relinquishment July 27, 2012

The Adoption Lists: Oxygen’s I’m Having Their Baby

The Reaction of the Adoption Community The Oxygen Network’s New Show “I’m Having Their Baby” has caused quite a commotion in the adoption community to say the least. While we have seen expectant mothers considering adoption to be exploited before for entertainment value (The 2004 20/20 Barbara Walters Adoption Special “Be My Baby”) or the brunt of “funny” jokes and black humor (2007’s Juno), the issue isn’t so much the…

Adoption Events July 26, 2012

Press Release: 2012 Adoptee Rights Day!

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE   National Adoptee Rights Group Travels To Illinois to Free Original Birth Certificates American Adoptees Denied Civil Rights to Birth Certificate Due to archaic laws that are a legacy of cultural shame stigmatizing infertility, sex, unwed mothers, and adoption, over 90% of all American adoptees will face a life of discrimination unless current laws are changed. Wanting their civil rights restored, the Adoptee Rights Coalition; http://www.adopteerightscoalition.com;  adopted…