Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

My Mother’s Secret

Lifetime’s Newest Crop of Adoption Mistruths I can’t believe they are still making movies like this. I had to double check the year to make sure, but sure enough this garbage was newly created in 2012 and is a new movie for the lifetime adoption propaganda machine. So this lovely woman finds out she is pregnant and I guess for the the first time in her 34 years she asks…


Never Doubt the Power of Social Media!

7/3/13 EDITED TO ADD: This post went live on the morning of July 2, 2013 in it’s original version which is what you see here. Where AdoptHelp.com  Rips Off My Personal Branding   OK I know that I am not the first person to use a play off the Rosie the Riveter images. I understand that this is an iconic image that has been co-opted in many ways since Pittsburgh…


Life Changes; Embracing Life a Birthmother

This year, it felt like the universe was telling me something. Every inspirational quote I received, every email I got, every horoscope I read, every little tweet that caught my eye said some version of “Start Now”. From the “In a year from now, you’ll wish you would’ve started today” morphed a real observation that the universe was smacking me over the head with a two-by-four.
I keep on trudging alone and not listening.
The universe got louder.


Father’s Day and Paternal Abandonment

Suffering a Serious Lack of Grandpa’s Around I won’t be sending my father a Father’s Day card. I won’t be talking him out to dinner or buying him a Father’s Day gift. My children will not be making him goofy pictures telling him what a great grandpa he is. He doesn’t know their names. He has never seen them. My children do not have a grandfather. In fact the ONLY…


Free Adoption Records: Open the Secrets in New York – part 3

Denied Adoptee T shirtThe adoptee bill of rights would grant people who are adopted the right, upon their 18th birthday, to obtain an original or certified copy of their birth certificate and learn who their biological parents are. The legislation would also ensure adoptees have access to their family’s medical history, if such records exists, as well as any other information birth relatives might choose to provide.


Free Adoption Records: Open the Secrets in New York part 2

Sealed Adoption Records in New YorkThough now the trend of many adoptions are “open”, sharing various information regarding identity, medical history, with shared pictures and letter, visits, and lifelong contact, there is still little hope for those who were born or gave birth during the times of the past. The face of adoption has changed with new advances in the nature of human responses, but the laws still remain the same, ignorant to new information and ways of thinking.


Free Adoption Records: Open the Secrets in New York – part 1

The history of sealed adoption records in the US and the current battle in New York’s legislation to free them open.   Since, my little blog here is now featured in the local Kingston paper online, I thought it would be most fitting to re-publish this piece I wrote specifically about New York and the adoption laws here. Since it is rather long, I broke it up for ease of…


Oh No, Please Don’t Go! We Lose Maurice Sendak

Some deaths take us by surprise ( Davey Jones) and some we know are coming ( Steve Jobs). Some we should know are coming, like MCA as he was sick, but still we are surprised. At age 83, Maurice Sendak’s death should not come as a shocker, yet I was not, by any means, prepared.
I think I imaged that he would live forever.
I know his influence on my life will.


Yahoos Think: Adoption Saves Tax Money

I haven’t had to defend myself in quite some time as I usually assume anyone here knows the story by now, but I think I need to make a cheat sheet! Since there is just SO much happening over there AND since it’s May first, I have decided to try and join in NaBloPoMo and kill two birds with one stone! The “theme” of NaBloPoMo is “play”. Yeah, I’m “playing”…


Never Imagined This

Adoption was supposed to be the thing that let me move on with my life as if I was not a mother. 25 years later, I never expected to see us on the front page of Yahoo news; about adoption of course.


Video Trailers for “Adopted or Abducted?”

Dan Rather Reports: Preview Trailers Dan Rather Reports, “Adopted or Abducted?” will devote the entire hour on Tuesday, May 1st to the heartbreaking accounts of women — most of whom were teens at the time — who were forced to hand their babies over for adoption. In a sweeping and exhaustive six month investigation that spanned from Australia to the United States, producers from Dan Rather Reports conducted nearly one…


Post Baby Scoop Era Birthmother Poster Child?

  Have you noticed my new profile image? Rye treated me to a photo session with the AMAZING Tamme Stitt. I say amazing with good reason. The pics came out great. I will admit it; I look great, but it’s not ME; Tamme does something magical with the camera. Anyway, this was the one pose that I had been thinking about for over a good year now. I wanted a…


Interviewing with Dan Rather Reports

  Dan Rather Investigates Adoption & Coercion Yesterday, April 6th, 2012, I was interviewed by Dan Rather. I usually don’t like writing these kinds of “I’m going here and doing this” kind of thing because it feels insanely self promotional and I end up feeling like a show off and that’s not my intention. However, enough people know and will ask me about it. The one thing I love about…


Support and Advice for Amelia’s Mom

I received an email yesterday, that I am sharing here. I would not normally do this, but I think that in this case, words of wisdom need to come from more people than just myself. It’s one thing for one person to offer advice, but it’s different if many give the encouragement and support.

I know there is a small chance that the whole story is made up and perhaps someone thinks they are sneaky and is digging for information to use against me. I don’t care about that. Have fun it that’s the case. My advice would be the same no matter what. Plus, I really don’t believe that to be true. I am leaving out the new mother’s name and the date of the baby’s birth to be safe.