Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

The 2011 Adoptee Rights Video

Without the San Antonio Heat! Long at last! I know.. it took me FOREVER, but here is the next best thing to being at the Adoptee Rights Protest. It does not due it justice, so all I can say is… START PLANNING TO CHICAGO IN 2012 NOW!!!! Expect a follow up post sometime in the next 3 months! I’m sorry.. I AM LAME!! Tweet


Travel Completed: I Have Arrived in San Antonio for the Adoptee Rights Demonstration

Fourteen hours of traveling is completed. A grand total for three different buses, 2 planes, 3 flights, 6 cites (Kingston to NYC to Newark to St. Louis to Dallas to San Antonio) and about one hour sleep… Worked out exactly as I planned. In fact, it probably could not have gone better. I’m going to have to film a bunch of stuff at this hotel. OMG..I’m quite impressed. Of course…


On the Road to the Adoptee Rights Protest 2011: San Antonio Texas

It’s almost 2am and I have a 6am flight out of Newark. I hate early morning flights, but I search and priced tickets for 6 months and I did a round trip on Southwest for.. Under 240? So 6am it is. Once agin, the start of my Adoptee Rights Protest adventure starts with being up all night! I do miss travel ing companions though. Newark airport at 2am is a…


National Adoptee Rights Group Travels To Texas to Free Original Birth Certificates

American Adoptees Denied Civil Rights to Birth Certificate Due to archaic laws that are a legacy of cultural shame stigmatizing infertility, sex, unwed mothers, and adoption, over 90% of all American adoptees will face a life of discrimination unless current laws are changed. Wanting to end discrimination , the Adoptee Rights Coalition; http://www.adopteerights.net ; adopted persons, their families and friends will be gathering in San Antonio, Texas, during the Annual…


Make it OK for Adoptees in OK

I was wondering if some first mother’s would mind writing a quick email to the Oklahoma legislators below and please point out that as first mothers you were not “promised” confidentiality, but that it was enforced upon you when you relinquished your children. They are trying to include language about balancing “birthparent privacy” when Judge’s consider an adoptee’s request for their records, in their adoption bill and some of the…


Finding Normal; Visits with Adopted Siblings

Maybe it just had to be like this. No advanced planning, no time to think, no opportunity to worry, wonder of second guess; just a chance to hit the road and once again, begin the journey back to Boston, back to my son. Could it be that I was actually going to Boston for a work function and my son, relinquished, searched for, found, and now four years into reunion, was meting us to watch the kids for me? A child care crisis gives adoption reunion a new name: NORMALITY

That it was the day before Mother’s Day and officially, urg, Birthmother’s Day made it only the more sweet.


Screw Birthmother’s Day! I am Officially Rebeling!

Like most mothers who have relinquished, even with having three more children, Mother’s Day can be very bittersweet. No matter how loved or celebrate by those in life, Mothers Day is a reminder for what is not. It serves as a reminder for the years lost. For years of handmade presents that went to another mother who took your place. Of course, I don’t find that having a separate segregated holiday makes that any better.There is no peace for a birthmother on Mother’s Day. Did I say screw Birthmother’s Day yet?


Adoptee Rock Wilk Coming to the Hudson Valley

Kingston Receiving an Emotional Journey of Adoption Truth I love it when the universe comes to a full circle. When I was working on the Blondie Music Video I got to talking to the one of the producers of the local Kingston venue where the video was shot . Now Hudson Valley locals know it as BSP, or Backstage Studio Productions, on Wall Street, right down the block from both…


Finding My Andy Warhol

My 80’s Club Scenes, CBGB’s, Music Videos and Blondie Weekend In the days before my birthday, it’s pretty natural to find myself deeply introverted and taking stock of the almost 43 years that have made up my life so far. While some years are better than others, I often think back to the person that I thought I wanted to be and the person who I actually am now and…


Jeep Knows Bloodlines Matter

Perhaps Jeep Could Sponsor Adoptee Rights? We all have a bloodline, but it takes a bold spirit to say…… Give Me Access to my Original Birth Certifcate! Dear Folks at Jeep, I dearly love your new commercials and I am not the one in the family who looks whistlfully at Jeeps as they pass us on the road. That’s my husband Rye who still mourns the last of our Jeeps…


When Only the Rich Deserve to Have Sex

Rye is a news junkie and sometimes I just have to be a pain and make him turn it off. As much as I love a good Rachel Maddow snarky fest, sometimes I just cannot take how incredible STUPID our elect politicians in Washington can be. It’s almost harder to watch their antics on TRMS or on Jon Stewart because it’s then so damn obvious how unrealistic and ideological and…


Adoptee Rights Legislations & Open Records

Restore Unrestricted Equal Access & No One Left Behind One of the major problems in the adoption community is that there is lots of disagreement. After all, adoption is a very emotional subject and one that really incites deep passions and strong beliefs. I’m not even talking about the most obvious sides of the fence: adoptive parents desires to adopt children verses the birthparent loss verses what the adoptee might feel…


A Gift for the Adoption Community!

Adoption News and Events on Facebook So there is a new Facebook Page for Adoption called Adoption News and Events There is a bunch of people from around the adoption community already putting up links to what they find online having to do with adoption. Yes, I picked people who are mad sharers and who seem to be the source for the stuff that we all pass around on Facebook….


Adoptee Records New York Event

I’m leaning towards going to this… The Evan B Donaldson Adoption Institute is holding an event on March 10, 2011, to “heighten public, media and policymaker awareness about the need to restore adopted adults’ right to access their original birth certificates.” I can get down with that. Plus, I like the chance to see Adoption Peeps and Bastards in person! The adoption event will feature the official world premiere of “I’m…


Adoption Commentary Craw Exposed

AKA How to Piss Off a Claud I haven’t felt the need to do this in a while. Usually, I don’t let other people’s comments get under my craw. After all, I have been online talking about adoption issues for ten years now and I had a rather thick skin to begin with. Rather than beat a person over the head with my beliefs, I would rather calmly state the…