Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Adoptee Rights: Suing the State that Denies One Access to the OBC

I am no law professor, but I get inspired in odd places. Rye and I were watching the History Channel the other night about the history of the Ku Klux Klan, and it actually inspired me. How can the Klan Help Adoptees I’m not completely sure, but follow my logic with me for a minute, will you? The show brought up the Civil Rights Act of 1871 and I immediately…


Return Adult Adoptees the Right to their Original Birth Certificates

Granting Adoptees Access to their OBC’s Change.org has a nifty constest/ promo going on and adoptee rights has a nice place on it! The 10 ideas that receive the most votes by the end of the competition will be presented at an event in Washington, DC to relevant officials in the Obama Administration. If the Adoptee Rights is among the top 10 ideas, it will then be promoted to Change.org’s…


Acknowledgement, Validation, Apologies, and Parenting

I have learned so much from being a parent. I have learned so much from being thrust into the reality of adoption. I have learned so much form my journey online. I have learned so much from the pain of life. My head has been spinning lately and my heart feels heavy. I haven’t been writing because I have been thinking too fast. Life keeps coming and I can’t find…


Darryl McDaniels & Zara Phillips Adoptee Rights Video

Adoptees Video says I’m Legit Unfortunately, the laws still say that they are not. Please, rate the video on YouTube, comment, share etc. The more good attention it gets over theri the higher it will show up on the YT searches.. and the more it will be seen. The 16 year old inside me is still broken hearted that I didn’t get over to the actual video filming. I guess…


New York City Area Birthmothers: Opportunities to Speak Out!

Must be something in the air. Heading into NYC Tomorrow For a Birthmother Documentary Looking really forward to the day in the city. Bonnie and I, my live-in-the-same-town-now-were-pregnant-andrelinquished-at-the-same-time friend, are both going down tomorrow for filming. And added bonus: We are meeting up with Suz and Kish!   More Moms Who Relinquished Needed Gregg Grossman is the documentary film maker and he is looking for more moms. I do know…


2010 Bring it On!

Ah. …a new year. Despite it’s less than auspicious beginnings ( I felt kind of icky in the belly going into New Year’s Eve celebrations and champagne did not help; so the first of the year was most unpleasant and often found me moaning in the loo), I feel good about 2010. A Decade gets it Due I usually pretty impresses by the turning of a decade. Even though I…


My Adopt-a-tude: More on Find My Family

I was asked to write Adopt-a-tude’s second post in a series about the ABC reality show Find My Family. I most happily agreed. So, yes.. another post on how I feel about ABC’s Find My Family, just in case I have not been clear about it!


Sara Lee and the Evil Poundcake

Did you ever have a craving for 15 years? It’s an awful thing. It’s kind of odd because in allot of ways, I don’t have allot of people from my past in my life. Like when people complain about their families, I really can’t relate anymore. My parents are both gone; my mother to cancer, my father to some strange life that has not included me for the last 20…


Primal Wound Book Tour: Birthmother Musings

I was open to the idea of this Prima Wound book tour since I knew it had been some time since I had read my copy this adoption classic. Plus, the last time I had read it I was in the midst of a massive adoption book read in; so much of it got jumbled with tons of other facts and figures. I tend to read like that and assimilate…


JP Morgan Chase Bank is a Bad Pimp Daddy!

JP Morgan Chase Bank P.O. Box 15298 Wilmington, DE 19859-5298 Re: account # XXXXXXXXXXX Dear Chase Bank, He Answered the Phone I want to thank you for actually sending my full account history as my husband requested during one of your recent “gonna call the D’Arcy’s house at least 12 times today” days. I took the liberty of compiling the information contained in the 74 pages since it was hard…


A Birthmother’s Perspective of ABC’s Find My Family

I made a point to watch ABC’s Find My Family tonight I normally avoid adoption related shows because I don’t do well with them in general. I yell at the TV and get all worked up. I know it makes Rye nervous. Birthmothers and Adoption TV=Not Fun As a birthmother, I find it is like walking through a land mine; carefully place the my foot down on the next step,…


In the Dollhouse; A Message from my Mother

The Christmas before I turned twelve, my parents got me a dollhouse. Not just any dollhouse but they had it custom made by a local man for me. We had been looking for just the right house for quite a while. I don’t know how I got into it, but my mom and I went to quite a few places looking for a good dollhouse.. You know the serious collector…


Adoption, Relinquishment, Informed Consent, Abortion, 911, and Insurance: How to Fix Adoption??

I don’t know why, but the responses to my last post about my dreading with November was overwhelming to me. It wasn’t that people responded with kindness; I actually expect the innate goodness and compassion of most. It wasn’t that my feelings obviously resonate to what other moms feel during the birthday months of our relinquished children either. It was more like I was so struck at how very similar…


November: A BirthMothers Season of Loss

Here it comes. I don’t know why I am surprised. It’s November. It’s National Adoption Awareness Month. Max’s Birthday is on Saturday. My due date for him was tomorrow November 12th. Into the Season of Max I roll.. Gotcha Gotcha Gotcha! I feel the big cranky coming on. Tuesday night when I found myself almost in tears over a pretty much a nothing conversation with Rye, I immediately thought “PMS?”,…


My Most Treasured Photo of Adoption

I’m late to the Adoption Carnival Party today, but I’m still going to play: This month’s Grown in my Heart Adoption Carnival is: Carnival III: Photos of Adoption. What is your most treasured adoption photo (or two)? Block out faces if you have to, find a scanner, or simply tell us about it if you can’t post it. We do understand that. For me, my most tresured Adoption Photos is…