Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Adoption is not a gift!

Before Making an Adoption Plan, Relinquishment, The Adoption Industry November 27, 2007

Looking for that Magic Key!

In the midst of the conversation, we touched upon that just bad feeling that we both have, that we in a certain way, did this to ourselves. Though she was up here at the time, and I on LI and in NYC, being the same age, getting pregnant at the same time, having boys 5 days apart, it was the same time frame and the same social order that we experienced. The greatest difference is that I went the agency route and she fell in with a private lawyer/ private adoption. And as she said “I did this.. I found them”.
“So did I. I called my agency. I sent myself away”

Rants and Raves November 27, 2007

I Love You More

There is one odd perk of being a blogger that I have noticed lately…people email about all sorts of stuff. I guess I am being asked to endorse or whatever about what it is that they are pitching. Who knows, maybe we all get them and I actually pay attention, but I read ’em. I mean hey, you never really know who is emailing.. today it was Northeast Public Radio..so…

Cultural Views on Adoption, Rants and Raves November 26, 2007

Movie Review: August Rush

Getting Ready to See August Rush I don’t have to say again how loopy excited I was to go see this film. Hoped for by the adoption truth lovers as THE film to get get people to understand some of the complexities of adoption separation, I ignored the fact that I spent the majority of the previous 56 hours in bed with a flu and bounced out the door. Bonnie…

A Birthmothers Life, The Adoption Industry November 26, 2007

The Origin of the Word “Birthmother”

Pearl S. Buck Uses the Term Birth Mother in 1956 The first known use of the word “birth” as a descriptive and identifiable adjective for a woman who has lost her child to adoption is attributed to Pearl S. Buck in 1956. In the June issue of Women’s Home Companion, Buck wrote a piece called “We Can Free the Children”. Buck, clearly talking about unwed mothers and the feelings of society…

Adoption November 24, 2007

August Rush

I’m going to the mooovviessss! Ok so I say that in a sad sing song way because I never get to the movies anymore, but I just got to go to this one! Getting Ready to See August Rush So we already had plans..we, as in Bonnie my mom friend who lives a parallel life to me..but we had said next week…i don’t care that I am still flashing fever,…

Adoption November 24, 2007

Uck! Bleck! Ugg!

I don’t usually get too upset over other people’s inane commentary. OK, that’s a bit of a lie, but for the most part, I expect stupidity when I dare to read “regular” folk saying things about adoption. And, I have to admit, it seems like lately, things are a bit better…it’s that hope thing again, I was really looking forward to seeing what the New York Times had for their…

Adoption November 22, 2007

I think it’s pretty good…

But before I give the linky, yeah there are some things that are a bit off. Not enough to freak out really.. Like Rye was annoyed that they call me “Corrigan” alot, but Ido not care about that. I feel bad that they say Origins-USA operates the data base to search…which is way off and not true. Obviously, we are referring to the ISRR here, but they don’t mention that…

Birthmother Holidays & Adoptee Birthdays, Relinquishment November 20, 2007

Adoption is NOT a State of Mind!!

Annual Birthmother / Adopted Child Birthday Blues Today is the last day of the “Max’s Birthday Week..let me live in the past..thank you”. Unfortunately, it is now piggybacking on real PMS and, as always, Thanksgiving blues. Coupled with Holiday Blues Thanksgiving always makes me miss my own mother really, really bad. It is not uncommon for me to be cooking the brussel sprouts or stuffing from her handwritten recipe book…

Cultural Views on Adoption November 18, 2007

Drowning Sterotypes with a Cup of Tea

So Thursday afternoon I sat at my kitchen table for about 2 hours and babbled on about adoption as I do with Jesse Smith, the Ulster Publishing reporter. It was actually quite enjoyable..Jesse being a cool mellow guy that he is..and, well, I am aways pretty happy talking about adoption. Anyhoo, he seemed pretty excited about it all, was going to do some more research, was happy it was a…

Adoptee Rights November 13, 2007

NPR, the EBD and making waves

Donaldson Institute Releases Study on Adoptee Rights Ok so, as you all MUST know by now, the Evan B. Donaldson Report for this November, FOR THE RECORDS: RESTORING A RIGHT TO ADULT ADOPTEES, is making the waves. So adding in today.. we have A NPR show which is available to hear now.. and then the NPR Blog of the Nation. Now, many many familier names have added their 2 cents, but there…

The New York Times

Adoption News November 13, 2007

New York Times Blogs..

I am assuming this is something for our lovely National Adoption Awarness Month..it looks like they are running an adoption related blog everyday for the month… or i am indeed cementing my lameness by just noticing this and it is here all the time??? In anycase, worth a read.. worth a comment if you are so inclined… and I think my new favorite quote just came out of it: <…

Adoptee Rights November 12, 2007

RegDay Review!

Ah, I know, I know.. a day late and a dollar short, but for whatever reason sitting at the Mall for a very quick 8 hours I also found to be very very exhausting! Plus, when I did get home, we had friends over..so about three glasses of red wine later, up too late entertaining, and general life choas on Sunday… just be thankful you get this now. I feel…

Adoptee Rights, Adoption Events November 8, 2007

RegDay Reminder!

And once again, Teresa the Ungrateful Little Bastard and I are rocking the Hudson Valley Mall this Saturday! I have to give a public plug here to her: Let me tell you, she is awesome! When she says that she will do something, she does it..I bow down to her infinate photo copy getting greatness! And I really look forward to some quality adoption time together! On a happy note,…

Adoption Events October 30, 2007

One of the things we did at the conference…

Was film this. you know the drill! Now for a public service announcement form Origins-USA! ************************************ National Adoption BEWAREness Month Origins-USA, a national non-profit dedicated natural family preservation and support of families separated by adoption commemorates November as National Adoption BEWARE-ness month. November became National Adoption Awareness Month in 1990 to focus on the needs of more than 100,000 in foster care who cannot be reunited with family and who…