One of the things that has taken this nation by storm is MySpace. I have the ability to say that I joined a million years ago, when it was new and not “everyone” and their brother was on the dern thing. Our fiend Murry was all about getting Rye and I to get on it, though we thought it was way lame at the time.

Now of course, since then, I am very happy to have this handy tool. If nothing else, it did allow me to be in contact with Max..and I have used it to find a few other adoptees for moms. But what I see now…oh..makes me feel like I have treaded back around 4 years in the internet world.

For many it seems, MySpace..is their first taste of the internet world..and like many of us who have been though the fire of adoption hell..what is the first thing we all do? Try and hook up with others in the same boat. SO there are all these little adoption “Groups” popping up on MySpace..and I am “lucky” enough to get invited.

Now my pesonal rule with Mypace is that if I don’t really “know” someone, then you don’t get to be “MyFriend”. If I see that you are connected to someone I know, then I will, or if there is something that makes you interesting, I will..but not if you just have 5000 friends or if you have some band or whatever…got to be a reason..but I usually Ok anyone who is adoption related..and hence, I usually just join the adoption groups without much thought either.

I don’t interact much with these adoption groups on MySpace..well becasue I feel they are back in the dark ages,..and I just don’t have the stomach for them at all. But like two days ago, I was invited to a “new” group..and I posted..blah blah..what’s your story..and they were all “happy happy nice nice”..and I said a short piece about my views and what I do.

The question that came back was “Do you state your views about adoption on your blog?” Ha ha..It is a bit obvious isn’t it?..and so I replied that yes, indeed..my views are quite transparent..and then I got this:

“Well Im sorry that you have had such a bad experience with adoption, I guess everyones case is different”

And to that..I just feel like running away..deleating the dern group and not going there again. I just don’t feel like I have the energy or the fortitude to go there again. I don;t want to have to prove again that it is not a case that MY adoption was so bad, but that ADOPTION ITSELF just sucks EGGS. But it is another possiblitly for education..right. This is what I do..right? Uggg.

And what I want to know…can anyone tell me how losing your child is a GOOD thing????