Somehow I ended up with a week off from work. I didn’t really plan it that way, but it happened. It was a nice week though with Garin graduating Middle School on Tuesday and having to go out to a nice dinner with not only the kids, and Rye and my Ex-husband…aha is that what polygamy is like?? Then a work baby shower on Wednesday. Friday they weirder out the schedule so I was off for some reason and made Rye take me out. Well actually Eileen made me go out and cranky Rye fetched me after 2 1/2 pints of mudslides..lol. So Saturday found me back at work.

It was a dead night and I ended up having a wonderful conversation with a lovely couple on “table 2”. These things always start somehow regarding my children and the woman had asked about birth order. More of her own theory regarding the third child, and in that I felt comfortable and had enough time to open up adoption which really does mess up birth order. Like I have always teased Garin abut NOT being the typical type A personality oldest..and he isn’t that way despite being raised as the oldest for 13 years.

Anyway…I came clean to them…it’s great how I have no issue with “coming out” anymore. And they were just soooooo lovely. Loved the search story, were happy for the reunion, wished me luck, understood adoptee issues, understood the humanity of moms, were interested in Open Records..just great enlighten folks. It was just all around positive. Made me feel so good.

Turned out that the husband’s sister had two girls from Korea and had all their paper worked saved so that they could go back and find their families and they were all supportive of that too. And then we even hit on donor and surrogacy and GSA and all that crap and THAT was even great!

So when I got out of work and changed into the cutest little top with boning and a lace up back, and my cute little cut work circle skirt and my fabulous pointy toed mules..and I felt NOT 38 amd very sexxxy. And went to the fab grand opening party for Pop’s Tattoo Emporium at Snapper’s and ALL our friends were there and it was just sooo great!

I had this wonderful moment with Jo..who is Murry’s and Miranda’s mom. Miranda is the owner of Pops and she did my lovely new Bat piece. And as Jo and I had stood back on the sidewalk at like 2am out side Snapper’s having a smoke…she shared with me her feelings on watching this party of her daughter’s hard work. “I am the most fucked up person..and to see this..this is what my daughter’s party is” Now Jo, is by no means fucked up. She is lovely and human and real with a heart a mile wide. I adore her. One of the greatest things about my marriage to Rye is that all these great people came into my life with him. The man has great friends that I am honored now to call my own. And Jo..is a GREAT mother..because Murry and Miranda are just fabulous beautiful individuals. They know who they are, they are comfortable in their skin and they are just good. I can only hope I do as well as her. I told her she is my role model because she is. And we both got a bit beclempt ( how the hell do you spell that?) And it just made me think of all the newly pregnant out there, who think, much like Jo must have, that they have no idea how to be a good mom, and might be too scared to try..and what they will miss….twenty something years later..the proud moment when they see what they have made with these lives they were blessed with..these amazing people.

And it was such a scene…2 am the bar spilling over…so many amazing tattoos, the hair, the outfits, the happiness and joy..people laughing and having fun. And one might think OMG what a bunch of freaks, but we are doing OK..everyone is growing up and finding their place, making their own place and in turn making more places for us all. We have this cute little town…we have a bar, a tattoo place, Lucy’s Taco’s, so many of us live right on my block…it is nice to feel good with the universe.

The stars were lined up and all was right in the world.