When any adoption agency neglects to acknowledge and meet these needs, it is the right of THE constituents of the adoption community to refuse allegiance to the agency, and to insist upon the establishment of new agency approaches.
I read that YES, wanting to become a mother and being infertile IS a path to adoption, though interestingly, often not the first path to resolving the “childless” issue. The chicken really wants an egg, preferably their own egg.
Adoption agencies want birthmothers and adoptive parents to see positive outcomes of open adoption. They do this is by highlighting open adoption success stories from “happy adoptees,” but are the stories honest?
The intent behind “protecting” a person from the ugly or not so ugly truth about one’s self might be begun as a kindness, but it is still a lie. So even if you love the person you wish to protect, you are betraying their trust and making a decisions for them based on your feelings, not theirs. You are not trusting them enough with knowledge that is theirs, not yours, to withhold. Truth is truth and no amount of wishing can change that.
For National Adoption Awareness Month, here’s 30 days of adoption activist activities that you can do instead of just complaining about adoption! Spread Adoption Truths outside the walls of AdoptionLand!
A Guest Post About Speaking Out on Adoption Truths: I speak out about adoption, not because of ‘poor me’, but to bring awareness of what is happening in the world with hopes that unethical practices will end.
It’s not a easy story. It’s not a happy story, but it is not a horrible story either. It is a real story and most of all; it is Jung’s story and it is his truth. While drawn though a child’s eye, he does not cast a child’s feelings on it and gloss over or seem to exaggerates, but rather the same truthful light of recollection is shown on all. He shows the faults and failings of his whole family and himself. It is not a pity party; it is not a movie of blame. The good as well as the bad is reveled. It is a glimpse inside the emotions of moving through.
For those non adopted, it might seem easy to dismiss the importance of genetic mirroring since we do not have to think about it. It is just there. But it’s like saying that the air we breathe is not important because we don’t think about it and its just there. If we were to not have oxygen for even a few minutes, each and every one of us would be screaming to have it restored. Genetic mirroring is like that.
I received your letter today regarding the Estate of Maurice Sendak on my blog. I do understand what you must do and I am inclined to amicably resolve the matter, though it would be with great sadness, if that is what must be done.
Proof of Increased Mental Health Risks for Adopted Children: This study by Margaret A. Keyes, Stephen M. Malone, Anu Sharma, William G. Iacono and Matt McGue is at least the third study on adoptees and suicide risk that I have here and all point that are at increased risk of suicide attempt in adopted persons compared with nonadopted individuals
I just do not support adoption as a solution to fix your infertility. Or her infertility. Or their infertility or just about anyone’s . I do not support domestic infant adoption. Period. See, Adoption will not FIX your problem. Your problem is that you are infertile and cannot have your own child. If you adopt a child, then you will still NOT have your own child. You will have someone else’s child and you will still be infertile. And for you to GET that child, you will have to be part of a highly unethical and inhumane profit driven business. And I don’t care how wonderful you are, how much you have wanted to have a kid, how perfect of parents you would be, you still don’t get a pass on ethics.
My birth mother’s husband knew about me from the beginning. He married my birth mother after I was out of the picture. I remember him pulling me aside in their living room and saying how he regretted he couldn’t see what I looked like. He had lost most of his vision to cataracts and diabetes and could only see shadows and outlines. We shared my secret in common, he the only cast member in this charade that seemed real.
Children are NOT ‘things’. They are not accessories, dolls, products, property, chattel, toys, trophies, prizes, pawns, pets, robots, weapons, experiments, or gifts
WHEN: First Wednesday of the Month 7pm to 9pm
WHERE: Hillside Children’s Center 2075 Scottsville Road, Rochester NY
BONUS: Jeff Hancock Runs the group!
WHO: RIARG: RI Adoptees Resource Group
WHEN: 3rd Thursday of every month
WHERE: 5 New London Avenue Cranston, RI
BONUS: John Greene runs this Adoptee Support Group!!