Adoption Mythology

Vote NO to the adoption tax credit

Adoption News, Community, Costs of Adoption, The Adoption Industry September 26, 2012

What’s Wrong With the Adoption Tax Credit?

While the original adoption tax credit was created to benefit the adoptions of special needs children, successful lobbying from adoptive parents and the adoption lobbyists have increased the credit by both the amount refunded and the range of adoptions covered.
The Adoption Tax Credit now covers expenses paid in an unsuccessful attempt to adopt an child before finalizing the adoption of another child can qualify for the credit. The Adoption Tax Credit now applies to domestic and international adoptions.

I Call Bullshit on the American Dream

Cultural Views on Adoption September 22, 2012

Calling Bullshit on the Ideal of the American Dream

The American Dream, Communism, Adoption, Trickledown Economics all look good on paper, but none of them take into account the reality of Human Nature. We are selfish, we are greedy and we will take the advantage. We have feelings and emotions and hearts and souls that should be considered EQUALLY important, but they are not. We live in a world where those who have power and money can buy their way to and get what they want, while the rest of us must be content with crumbs.

There is no such thing as forcible rape

Adoption, Adoption Info Graphics August 27, 2012

Numbers of Truth for Rape & Conception

A Premier in Pretty Colors for Dumb Politician About a week ago, I was gifted with a link to a study published in 2010 called Giving Birth to a “Rapist’s Child”: A Discussion and Analysis of the Limited Legal Protections Afforded to Women Who Become Mothers Through Rape by Shauna R. Prewitt. Thank you, Paula for sending me the link! Considering the recent discussions in the media regarding “forcible rape”…

Adoption language and use of the word birthmother for SEO

Adoption Questions and Facts August 19, 2012

How do People Search and Find Adoption Information Online

What the date tells me above is what I already know. If you are writing about adoption, then the word adoption needs to be used. And if one is writing about issues in adoption that pertain to being a mother who relinquished, then I want those 1/3 a million monthly searches to have a chance of finding things here and that means using the word birthmother. I won’t call you one, but I’m going to write with it.

exploiting pregnant women

Adoption Truth, Community, Cultural Views on Adoption, Relinquishment July 27, 2012

The Adoption Lists: Oxygen’s I’m Having Their Baby

The Reaction of the Adoption Community The Oxygen Network’s New Show “I’m Having Their Baby” has caused quite a commotion in the adoption community to say the least. While we have seen expectant mothers considering adoption to be exploited before for entertainment value (The 2004 20/20 Barbara Walters Adoption Special “Be My Baby”) or the brunt of “funny” jokes and black humor (2007’s Juno), the issue isn’t so much the…

Unwed mothers who keep their babies destined for a life of social services

Cultural Views on Adoption May 2, 2012

Yahoos Think: Adoption Saves Tax Money

I haven’t had to defend myself in quite some time as I usually assume anyone here knows the story by now, but I think I need to make a cheat sheet! Since there is just SO much happening over there AND since it’s May first, I have decided to try and join in NaBloPoMo and kill two birds with one stone! The “theme” of NaBloPoMo is “play”. Yeah, I’m “playing”…

NY Foundling Hospital Open House 1958

Cultural Views on Adoption March 23, 2012

What CAN We Compare Adoption To?

  In my last post, Australia’s Adoption Apology, I was informed that comparing Adoption to the Holocaust was not in good taste or to quote: “offensive and overblown. Adoption is bad, and many were hurt. The Holocaust was the murder of 6 million men women and children for no reason other than that they were Jewish, or Gay or handicapped or Gypsies or some Slavs. The two things are just…

Can you have a good life with a baby?

Before Making an Adoption Plan February 24, 2012

Somebodies Mother

I’m 18 and have no diploma or GED. I plan on going to college and doing something with myself, but as of right now I live with someone else. I feel very sad thinking about this baby and about how my relationship and life is going to change and I’m curious about whether this is hormones or not. I feel HORRIBLE for the way I feel. Do you think I can have a baby now, keep her and still have a happy life and relationships?

Free Adoption Records - no Promises of Confidentiality

Adoptee Rights, Reunions & Support February 4, 2012

Protecting the Privacy of Birthmothers

ess than 1% of Birthmothers in the US desire to keep their adult children at arm’s length. So out of the 6 to 8 million adult adoptees in the United States, we can assume that there are say 6 million birthmothers and .993471% want to be left alone. That comes to 39,174 birthmothers. So because of 40 thousand mothers another 6 to 8 million people and their children and their children’s children get denied medical histories, get denied their identity, get denied their truth.. for the good of 40,000?

Ethcial adoption agencies are hard to find

Adoption Truth, Before Making an Adoption Plan, Relinquishment, The Adoption Industry January 27, 2012

Is Your Adoption Agency Ethical?

Adoption is particularly hard because it is never something we really learn about before we find it in our lives. I know I never dreamed that one day I would grow up, have a baby, give him to other parents to raise and not see him for 19 years. I believe that is true for many adoptive parents as well. Maybe you always felt that you would eventually adopt a child, maybe you were always intrigued, maybe you thought about it long and hard, or maybe suddenly, you just felt that you were thrust into it, maybe you entered it blindly; I don’t know, but I bet, looking back now, you would say that you had no idea what the experience of adoption a child would really be like. That you think now there was no way to have planned for it all. You could not have known

Adoption Koolaide & Birthmother Denial January 23, 2012

Why Adoption Kool-Aid Tastes so Good!

A Look at Birthmothers, Decision Making, and Denial It was close to 10 years ago, if not more the first time I was called out on being a birthmother in denial. Max was only 13 and years away from being found and I was new to the adoption community online. I was still saying things like “Adoption was the hardest decision, but the best choice for my baby I could…

Relinquishment, The Adoption Industry December 5, 2011

Birthmother, Good Mother: Her Story of Heroic Redemption

The Family Research Council claims to have conducted MORE research for the Birthmother, Good Mother: Her Story of Heroic Redemption, but after reading the two of them entirely, I believe that this new publication is still coming off of the original study. Both reports use the same copy for the methodology and both have the same research group, with the same number of participants in the same age ranges. I see Birthmother, Good Mother: Her Story of Heroic Redemption as a modified piece that demonstrates the actual twisting of the mind of a women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. It’s really like a “How to Create an Kool-Aide Drinking Happy Birthmother” guide. It’s really rather frightening. I’m not sure whether women are really that easily manipulative or we are just really stupid for falling for this. Or maybe it’s just all internal and they have managed to tap into it. All I can tell you is that this feels like reading the inside of my brain during the whole adoption process.