Saturday AdoptionLand Recap October 5th, 2013
AdoptionLand Recap: Must Reads in AdoptionLand the week of October 5, 2013; things to do, places to comment, stuff to share!
Adoption Mythology
Washington State Opens Up to Adoptees OBC
Starting on July 1, 2014, Washington State adoptee 18 and older who were adopted on or before October 1, 1993 will able to request their original birth certificate with the passing of Senate House Bill 1525, minus, of course, the dirty nasty contact veto.
Risk of Suicide Attempt in Adopted and Nonadopted Offspring
Proof of Increased Mental Health Risks for Adopted Children: This study by Margaret A. Keyes, Stephen M. Malone, Anu Sharma, William G. Iacono and Matt McGue is at least the third study on adoptees and suicide risk that I have here and all point that are at increased risk of suicide attempt in adopted persons compared with nonadopted individuals
When Reuters Focuses on Adoption Re-Homing Abuses
How many more children need to be sold into slavery? How many more birthmothers must kill themselves over the grief of losing their children? How many more adoptees must kill themselves? How many more adoptive families must fear for their lives? How many more adoptees must dig their own graves, or be killed or go missing os become wards of the state? How many more adoptees must die form not knowing their medical history? How many more fathers must be screwed out of their paternal rights? When are we going to be able to say more than “this is the exception”?
When does it become ENOUGH?
Fertility and Getting Pregnant versus Infertility and Adoption
I just do not support adoption as a solution to fix your infertility. Or her infertility. Or their infertility or just about anyone’s . I do not support domestic infant adoption. Period. See, Adoption will not FIX your problem. Your problem is that you are infertile and cannot have your own child. If you adopt a child, then you will still NOT have your own child. You will have someone else’s child and you will still be infertile. And for you to GET that child, you will have to be part of a highly unethical and inhumane profit driven business. And I don’t care how wonderful you are, how much you have wanted to have a kid, how perfect of parents you would be, you still don’t get a pass on ethics.
Buying a Baby: Melanie Capobianco’s Testimony About Saving Veronica Rose Brown
The Cost of this Adoption aka Baby Buying
So in April of 2009, right around the time that Christy was getting all pissy with Dusten, the Capobianco got in touch with Mr. Godwin.
There was a “birth family background report” performed by Nightlight Christian Adoptions where I am assuming they hear about the potential “adoption situation” aka Christy’s pregnancy
What Can We Save From Veronica Rose Brown’s “Adoption” Fiasco
See, Dusten Brown did NOT voluntarily relinquish and give his consent to have his child Veronica Rose Brown Adopted. That part is not in question. The original trial found that he did not consent and based on the ICWA, a father of native child must consent. When the Supreme Court of the United States threw out the use of ICWA as unconstitutional, Dusten Browns consent was no longer required and essentially, it does not matter what he wants.
Saving Veronica Rose Brown; Slander and More Court Documents Leaked
As of this morning only HALF the court documents of Dusten Brown’s testimony has appeared from Adoptive Couple v Baby Girl.Its is “said” to have been leaked form a #KeepVeronicaHome supporter, which is hysterical ad illogical!
Veronica Rose Brown Court Transcripts Point to More Corruption in Adoption
Why Was the Guardian ad Litem Already Biased for the Adoptive Parents? By her own admission; because she had been working with the Capobiancos before the BIRTH of Veronica.I’m so very curious on how a woman appointed to act in the best interests of a child, could do so before she is even born. Even the SOCTUS said the following about about her that really, if she had connections before, are untrue:
“The Guardian ad Litem, Ms. Jo M. Prowell (“the Guardian”), is the duly appointed representative of the respondent child (“Baby Girl”) in these proceedings, with standing to file this brief on Baby Girl’s behalf. The Guardian exhaustively considered the respondent child’s best interests and concluded that they clearly would be served by allowing her adoptive parents to retain custody.”
The Truth about Veronica Rose Brown
Oh look! I happen to have the actual court transcripts of The Direct and Cross Examination of Christy Maldonado in Adoptive Couple vs Baby Girl dated September 13, 2011 Now before I share this bit of court document candy with you, I do want to take a moment to point out Judge Malphrus’ Bench Ruling on this aspect of the case as it SPECIFICALLY relates to the issue of Dusten Brown’s attempts to support Christy Maldonado and his unborn daughter Veronica Rose Brown AND also to the issue of what rights he “signed away.” Being that, you know, those are the most common nails in his coffin of public opinion and why he should lose his daughter again.
Recalculating the Grays
At the same moment that I relished that feeling, I hated it. The second, I felt that I was doing exactly what I should have been doing, I wished I was on a different path. The confidence that I have found my true calling in life makes me curse the God’s that placed me here. I wonder in amazement that I am living a life of value and then I shudder with dread. In two seconds, I can be so sure, and then all at once wish more than anything else that I was lost in bland life of mediocrity. It’s my almost daily struggle as a birthmother.
Not Anti Adoption
I don’t have a problem with the IDEA of adoption. I am not ‘anti-adoption’ What I have a problem with, is what adoption has BECOME. And what it has done to people.This isn’t how it should be.
The Unethical Adoption Seizure of Veronica Brown
Simple Facts About the Veronica Brown Story
I personally do not care one bit how much the wannabe parents, Matt and Melanie Capobianco, think they have a right to her, or how much they love her or how much “better” they think they are. Dusten Brown is her FATHER and she has a family that is able to love her and take care of her. Veronica Brown should not have been ever and is NOT an adoptable child.
The Non Profit Adoption Agency Myth
It seems that many people want to believe that because many adoption agencies and adoption service professionals have the words ” non-profit” in their name, that they must somehow be exempt from any form of monetary corruption. While I am still hunting down the most recent report claiming the 13 billion dollars of profits in the adoption industry, to even see if the nonprofit numbers are included in the actual 13 billion, I decided to share a quick bit about nonprofit adoption services.
Finding Happiness in Spite of Adoption Reunion Issues
There is that classic saying, “you can’t change another person’s actions or feelings, but you can change how it affects you.” I think that is really important to remember in an adoption reunion. No matter how much we might want another person to think and feel and usually more importantly act, we cannot make that happen. No matter what you do, what hoops you jump through, the emotional gymnastics you attempt, you cannot change which you cannot control. If life was controlled by forces of sheer will alone, this world would be a much different, though I don’t know if necessarily better, place.