Father’s Rights? We don’t Need No Father’s Rights!”
A father shouldn’t have to fight strangers in curt for the right to parent his own child.
The adoption “industry” has become expert at circumventing a father’s right to parent his own child.
Common methods Include:
- Failing to secure a relinquishment or legal termination of parental rights
- Taking the expectant mother out of the state to conceal the child and /or avoid putative father’s registries
- Publishing due diligence notices in obscure publication
- Taking advantage e of military deployment or assignment
- Listing the father as “unknown”
Educate yourself.
Protect Your Rights
Before I met my father (bio), I thought a father had to love the mother of the child to love that child. The connection between my dad and I was instant….not sure how it all works, but what an incredible thing for both of us. Biology matters….unless you are adopted, then people try to tell you it doesn’t matter…funny how that works. My dad was never told about me…it was covered up by my mother’s mother and my father’s parents. I was a secret for a long, long time. I hate secrets.
I named my daughter’s birth father as “unknown” and I am not ashamed of it. The day before she was born, he almost killed himself huffing freon and spent the next two months in intensive care. When she was 6, he went to prison for carjacking and armed robbery. When she was ten, he killed his cellmate.
It’s too bad more birthmothers aren’t given the benefit of the doubt about birthfathers. I made the right decision to keep him out of her life.
Sorry I took so long to let his comment be approved; it actually provided much to think about and I have a post on this subject of the unknown father in adoption
I resent the fact that so many people inferred that I was a slut because I had the misfortune of becoming preg.
For example…
1. I was explicitly told by hospital a hospital nurse that I couldn’t put the birthfathers name on the birth cert. (because we were not married).
2. One of the OB/GYN office nurses actually refused to believe that the birthfather was who I said he was. (And in no uncertain terms, implied I was a slut because I was an unwed, preg teen.)
3. The Adoption agency acknowledged that the birthfather “might have been” the father and required him to legally sign away his rights… Just in case…
The birthfather was my 1st love. He treated me with respect when no adult would.
Father’s rights and grandparents rights as well as the child’s rights seem to be circumvented by the local government agencies.
With feminism all the rights seemed to be vested in the mother. However, if she is regarded as un unfit mother or doesn’t want to keep her baby, then the state will try to railroad the baby into adoption. The father, grandparents and wider family are too often excluded until it is too late.
This happens all too often in family law cases in the US and the UK. In my website I explain a few law cases involved in adoption-
http://familylawhelp.info/adoption/
Thanks for the post, Kate. It’s sadly truer than we realize, a father is more likely than the mother to be pushed aside from a child’s life.